No libido while breastfeeding - normal?

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I have 12 month old twins who are still breastfeeding. Since giving birth, I have had no libido to speak of, I really haven't been interested in intimacy of any kind - not kissing or hugging or anything. I'm wondering if it's a "normal" hormonal thing because I'm breastfeeding. My period also hasn't returned yet.

Basically I'm trying to work out if this is something that will sort itself out or if I should be concerned?

Totally normal in my experience of breastfeeding my two. I did try and make the effort for my DH but no real desire until I'd finished breastfeeding at 12 months. Even now I've not got the same drive as I did pre children but I put that down to being a mum, age and entering peri menopause.

Same - I think its pretty normal.

I'm still breastfeeding at 2.5 years though- husband is a bit fed up.

Thank you, that's reassuring to hear. Would you say you went back to how you were pre-pregnancy or did you find a "new normal"?

I was starting to worry something had just broken within me. Keeping myself and two babies alive has been such a mammoth task, I hadn't really considered anything other than survival until recently!

Thank you. Incredible to still be feeding at 2.5 years!

Thankfully my husband has been completely understanding but maybe in another 18 months he'd feel differently.

I think we've found a new normal but my first child was IVF after 5 years of TTC and to be honest I think all those years of sex at times because we had to has blurred what was actually normal for us.

This is reassuring! Nearly 11 months in and I feel the same. I do have my period back though so also have 2 weeks of serious rage per month. Amazing to still be bf 2 though, wow!!

We also went through IVF a few times and a couple of years before that of TTC. The blurring of normal really resonates. I've never thought of it like that.

Honestly it's completely normal. Happened with dc1 and lasted around 3 years. Sleep was a major part in it. Currently have a 2 yo and perimenopause is raising her ugly head. My sex drive is rock bottom. And this kid sleeps! So it's not exactly lack of sleep but I'm exhausted and just don't want to be touched. Tbf he's very understanding and gives me the space I need.

I breastfed for under a year both times. It does do weird and wonderful things to your hormones.

It will hopefully pass quickly for you. And natural rhythms with will return. Or at least I hope so!

I hope it's normal too! I had my 1st child in 2020 and 2nd in 2023, breastfed both for 2 years and totally understand what you're saying and feeling. I'm currently breastfeeding my 3rd baby who is 7 weeks old. The breaks I got from breastfeeding were whilst I was pregnant both times so I'm really hoping it returns back to normal after finishing bf this little one unless if we decide to have another baby again!