Did anyone on here have postpartum anxiety? Long story short, its stemmed from my mother in law.
When I was heavily pregnant she was very nice to me for the last few weeks. She was telling me things like the twins will be poorly in nicu, even though I had a healthy pregnancy so nothing suggested that. She also was obsessed with asking if anything was wrong with them...wtf.
Once they were born she was told not to kiss them, she kept on doing it and it took 7 times of her son telling her no. She's also so overbearing. Constantly poking and prodding the babies whilst we're out with them jn the pram, turns up without warning, has her own opinion on everything. She told my boyfriend at Christmas time she was wasn't going to be overbearing and if we needed help let her know. Its been the complete opposite. She's caused me a lot of anxiety and now my partner is making out im the unstable one and not his mother whos acting like a complete idiot.
She followed me around a restaurant last weekend, asking multiple times if she could take the babies walking so I could do whatever I wanted. She wouldn't just be taking them for a walk though, she would be kissing them and taking them places without telling me. She really can't be trusted!
This is affecting my relationship with my partner, hes also started playing mind games as well. If I was to leave him, he'd still get custody and his mum would have the babies alone, which would make my anxiety 10 times worse. Also my partner wouldnt have the patience to look after them alone (they're currently 8 weeks). I need to shake this anxiety going forward, i still wouldn't want her left alone with them until they were much older but just to tolerable her without her making my skin crawl or making me feel anxious. I feel so deflated as it's ruining the newborn stage for me and it's all down to her and now hes making things a lot worse.