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Is this late onset PND / sleep deprivation or am I just awful?

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Shamesame · 27/07/2025 10:04

Feels a bit ridiculous to be writing this in post natal when she’s 9 months old but I’m really struggling to enjoy any element of parenting.

Her sleep is awful and has always been awful so as a result I’m waking between 4-6 times a night.

Weaning has been an unmitigated disaster and she has no interest in food at all.

She’s not moving or wanting to.

and she’s just a really grumpy baby who is very quick to cry.

I know I shouldn’t be using her for validation but quite often I look at her and feel nothing because everything we do feels stressful and unenjoyable.

I didn’t know whether I’ve got late onset PND (if that’s even a thing) or if it’s 9 months of sleep deprivation meaning I’m snappy and angry all the time which my partner and parents are baring the brunt of,

or if most likely I’m just an awful person who should have paid attention to the fact I had multiple miscarriages and realised I shouldn’t have been a mother.

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Hbradley · 27/07/2025 10:22

Gosh that sounds hard and I remember my now 15 year old son being exactly like that.
Nothing seemed to go well, everything was stressful and it wasn’t enjoyable at all.
it’s no reflection on your ability as a mother and you deserve a medal for getting through each day. It certainly could be some PND and trip to gp would be worth while.

The crying is the worst. I was so jealous of people with easier babies.
looking back I wish I’d just been kinder to myself, and just do whatever was needed to get through the day. He was better with his dummy and I felt bad about that.
i bet you are a fab mum and I’ve no doubt happier / easier times are out there for you.
x

moondip · 28/07/2025 13:34

PND is said to start in the first 12 months I think, so definitely book a GP appointment and have a chat with them. You never know how much that might help. Be kind to yourself.

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