I'm on my second child. First is 8 and second is now 5 months old. I had a really rough pregnancy and rough birth the rough time after the birth as well. Still not fully healed or even fully diagnosed yet (slow nhs). I am just so unbelievably exhausted, resentful towards my husband eben when he is minding his own Buisness I get so enraged and am convinced I want to divorce him then an hour later I'm grateful he's there. I'm so tired of trying 😪 just tired of havibg so much responsibility on my head when I'm falling appart myself physically and emotionally. I have PTSD from the birth which I am waiting for therapy for. My husband really doesn't understand anything and he thinks I just sit about doing nothing all day because the house is usually a mess and nothing fresh is cooked (i used to keep house spotless and have fresh healthy meals cooked every day). I don't think he understands that things aren't the same and he can't just sit there like a rock waiting for me to go back to 'normal' in his mind hes being a good husband by being patient that I am noy able to do all these things and not complaining about it but really trying to make him understand that yes i could do this all before but now we have another human to take care of and my health is not good. So you have to flipping take some responsibility as well. For context he works full time 12 hour shifts sometimes up to 7 days a week and I am SAHM. I have an architecture degree so could be working at some point but we chose to do it this way. I am breastfeeding exclusively as well. Whenever I tell him to book days off work or help out around the house or with the kids he seems so offended and tells me to call,my family to come help or take the kids to his family abroad for the summer holidays so they can take care of me. Like its not his responsibility at all. Its very frustrating. I am struggling with the postpartum journey in general. His lack of responsibility just adds to the pressure and makes me think I'm better off without him a lot of the time.