Missing Being Pregnant - 10 Months Postpartum

[OliviaH2]

Hi everyone, I’m hoping to reach others who may feel the same. I have seen older posts of people feeling similar but it seems to be people who are in the early weeks after having their babies.

I am almost 11 months postpartum with my second baby (first is 2) and although I absolutely love my life and her being here, I just cannot shake this feeling of missing being pregnant and also a sense of sadness of how quickly they are both growing.
Every time I pass the hospital I gave birth in or doctors where I had appointments it brings the feeling on even stronger and also when someone I know is pregnant. I just can’t shake the feeling.

I know I am so unbelievably lucky to have two healthy, happy children and I feel that everyday - I feel I have to justify that.
I love them so much and wouldn’t change anything but I still have this feeling.

I think this is likely our last baby, my husband says you never know to help me stop feeling like this but it still doesn’t take it away.
I am breastfeeding and now have postpartum under active thyroid so I know my hormones are probably everywhere. Just hoping to get some reassurance that this feeling goes!

thank you xx

I feel the same with my 4 month old! Think it's normal. Time does fly and it's such an important time of our lives.

For the most part I don’t miss pregnancy (except feeling them move around - heaven 🥰) but I feel a lot of the other sadness you describe. Sadly we’re definitely stopping at 2. I feel like in another life I would have 3. And I can’t believe how quickly mine are growing up.
But I focus on all the fun things we can do as they get older. And I look forward to maybe getting some sleep again one day!

Sending hugs OP.

I felt like that, and then I had a third. That quickly cured it

No idea how to help with missing being pregnant because I was soooo utterly relieved not to be pregnant any more. However, my kids are now teens and yes they do change quickly but you have so much fun and all of their childhood ahead of you, maybe try to focus on what you have to look forward to.

I can relate! Our second is 5.5 months, I hated every minute of being pregnant. Was sick through out, awful fatigue, felt I wasn’t as good a mum as I wanted to be for our elsest. And now I crave being pregnant again wtf. Hormones are wild!

Thank you for your lovely reply and making me feel that it’s not just me thinking this. I find it’s such a hard feeling to describe, because you’re so happy but also feel a sense of sadness too, it’s like I don’t even know myself how I feel🤣
Thank you again 🤍

It really does fly! Thank you for your comment, it’s good to know it’s not just me feeling this way. 🤍

Yes it’s a real mix of emotions, but they all stem from love. I cry quite a lot because I feel like I’m overflowing with feelings. Mainly how much I love them, but also how quickly babyhood slips away. Sleep deprivation and hormones must be playing a part too 🤣

You are so right in saying that, such a good way of looking at it. I also cry a lot, I think it’s just through feeling so overwhelmed of not knowing how I feel because I have so many mixed feelings if that makes any sense ?!😅😂 I have so much love for my babies but also so sad that I’m not experiencing it all again. Such a crazy way to feel and hard to describe, but like you say hormones and lack of sleep won’t be helping us🤣

I have been feeling the same way! My baby will be in 11 months in a few days and I’ve been getting stronger and stronger feelings about missing pregnancy. I’ve had two dreams about it recently. I have a surgery scheduled next month to get my tubes removed and I don’t regret it. I don’t want anymore children, I have two. But something about knowing that I’ll never be pregnant again is making me sad. My bf is really supportive but neither of us understand it

Maybe you would make a really good surrogate mother? I think some women are just really good at being pregnant.

Ahh my baby is also just turning 11 months! Thank you for sharing, makes me feel reassured it isn’t just me as I feel it’s very over whelming and confusing as to how I feel! I hope your surgery goes well and your recovering is smooth 💗

How are you doing now? I feel the same and my second is a month. Missing being pregnant, missing the first few days and definitely missing all time with his older sister when she was a baby. I feel sad knowing I’m living the “good old days” that I’ll long for in the future, despite struggling with taking care of my one month old and 18 month old at the moment! I’m just a sentimental person I think and time passing is a big trigger for me.

I feel this way too! I’m three months postpartum and love having my little boy! I would like another in a few years time I think but I think DH would like to stop at two. I think pregnancy is such a special time and I loved being pregnant and had a lovely pregnancy without any complications (the birth was a different matter entirely for anyone getting jealous 🤣)
everyone treats you differently when pregnant and it’s a time which is so exciting and holds so much promise for the future. Dealing with a newborn is totally different!!
don’t have any answers I’m afraid 🩷

I’m so sorry that I never saw this, I have only logged back in after a long time! I hope you are feeling ok now, I still feel it - some days more than others. I found out I have post partum hypothyroidism about a year after giving birth which explained the baby blues feeling, but despite being on medication I still have those days. Not as often now though thank fully! I hope you are okay xx