Hi All, this is my first post so bear with me. I am 19 weeks postpartum after a forcep & episiotomy delivery to my second DD. I have a question about postpartum intimacy following an instrumental birth.
I’m 19, nearly 20 weeks postpartum after a forcep and episiotomy delivery as well as still breastfeeding. I had an emergency C-section with my first DD( 26months old) but healed really well and only ever needed paracetamol post op. I was comfortable and ready to be intimate with my husband pretty soon after DD’s birth. However I am struggling with intimacy after my second DD’s birth. I have a really supportive husband and he knows intimacy has to be at my pace and having tried to be intimate a few times feeling I was ready but unfortunately it led to excruciating pain. I feel normal down there and I’m pain free until we attempt intimacy. Is this normal to be experiencing this amount of pain this long after?
I know there are much bigger problems and it may sound trivial but since having our second DD we have really gone through a rough adjustment period which has affected our relationship. I struggled a lot with my emotions/feelings since DD2’s birth & my husband has been my rock but we've definitely had it tough. We’ve had crisis talks with us both agreeing we love each other as neither of us want to separate. We will get through this rough patch & really start to enjoy our new family life as we adore our girls and our new family unit but I just feel this lack of intimacy is a small but vital part to us being a couple and not just mummy and daddy. Again I have a really supportive husband and there’s been no pressure on me to be intimate just to note.
any help/ advice on this would be greatly appreciated!!