Socialising since having kids

[Lockdownbaby2021]

Hello.
has anyone else found they have really struggled to socialise since having kids?
I used to be sooo chatty and sociable but since having my babies (first one was 3.5 years ago) I really struggle to hold conversation and I really forget about what I used to talk to people about before kids. I feel really awkward and this was never a problem. What’s wrong with me ?? Has anyone else been like this and has it got better as kids got older or am I forever going to be socially awkward ?

bump, just me? It’s really hit me over the Xmas period how awkward I have become. I really don’t know how to talk to people anymore unless it’s people I’m really close to

I can imagine. I have definitely had more moments where my mind goes blank mid conversation, which has been horrible. I am definitely not as social as I used to be. Catching up with friends has been nice and just talking about life abs listening to them is nice. I’ve watched so much whilst my LO (8 months) is sleeping on me so I talk about my opinion of these shows; world affairs. I listen to LBC whilst driving around which keeps me ontop of general conversations.

It does take a while. Take it easy. Join mums clubs and try and catch up with one parent that you click with.

I didn’t think I would be as unsocial as I’ve become - I hope you are able to find at least one person to confind in.

I often find I’m quiet when I’m out as I’m actually enjoying not having a toddler whinge at me , not being overstimulated by being used as a climbing frame and having to constantly think what’s next to do and to eat! So I’m often quiet but I frame it as enjoying listening and being able to stop

maybe you need to reframe it in your mind that not being chatty is you thoroughly enjoying yourself