Feeling guilty about post-natal depression

[RBush22]

Dear all,

I struggled with terrible PND after my first daughter 3.5 years ago. I felt suicidal, drank too much (including around my daughter), got trashed on nights out, struggled to bond with her until she turned about 1.5 years old. I never caused her any harm in this state - I was functioning but under the influence. My now ex-H was awfully unsupportive (told me my daughter doesn't deserve a depressed mum) and happily left me on my own all day with her in this state while going on trips away and nights out etc.

Now I'm separating from him, he is using these episodes against me to allege I'm an unfit mother. I am completely different now, found my feet as a mum and now am the boring mum who never goes out, and happily reads her bedtime stories and baths her. She is my world.

My last drinking "episode" was 2.5-3 years ago. Does he have a case against me?

How he could he prove it?

He took photos of me and videos

Get a good lawyer. It helps that he clearly didn’t think his child was at risk as he had no issue with leaving you alone in charge. See what evidence you can find (photos, social
media, receipts etc) of his absences during that period.

Thank you - yes I read somewhere that you can't argue "unfit parent" if you happily left them alone with the kids at the time, just can't find where I read this.

Did you ever see a GP or health visitor and admit you were struggling. Has a health professional seen you turn things around? Because that would really help for a GP to say she was struggling, she admitted she had issues with X y z and now goes to. AA and is tee total etc etc. it would show a really strong case on your part