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Tired of everyone seeing my bits!

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Newmum0624 · 04/11/2024 23:01

Had an episiotomy in June and have had issues since with persistent infections meaning lots of examinations at both GP and hospital. Now healed but need physio due to scar tissue which involves more examinations. Everyone told me once I’d given birth I’d be so used to people seeing my bits I’d be immune to it but honestly I’m just so tired of having to get undressed, spread my legs and have people poke around down there. I’ve got my physio tomorrow and obviously pleased that I’m getting help so I’m not in any pain as a result of the scar tissue but it honestly makes me feel a bit sick with the thought of yet another person doing an examination.

I’ve never had an issue with having smears (or the birth process itself!) but it’s just been so consistent since birth I feel a bit violated almost?! I know it’s irrational as it’s necessary given I’ve had medical issues that needed help but just feels so rubbish and would like my privates to feel private again.

Not really looking for answers just having a moan - I know it’s all necessary and they’ve seen it all before etc etc.

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katmarie · 04/11/2024 23:12

I understand how you feel. I've had 2 kids now, and had episiotomy with the first, a tear with the second and then later had a prolapse and stress incontinence diagnosed as a result of the deliveries. I've had so many doctors and nurses look, poke, prod and stick things up me, I'm just utterly sick of it. The bladder function xray was a particularly low point. 4 peiple in a room, while they test your bladder function and xray you at the same time. I came away from that one feeling very off and vulnerable.

I am not too bad about being examined, but it gets a bit much after a while. At the moment I'm on regular visits to the gynae clinic for pessary fittings, waiting for a bowel clinic exam for the prolapse, and an on the waiting list for bulking injections for my bladder. All of which involves more examinations and poking and prodding.

The joke about leaving the digity at the delivery room door is true, but no one tells you that you don't get your dignity back on the way out again.

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Newmum0624 · 04/11/2024 23:25

katmarie · 04/11/2024 23:12

I understand how you feel. I've had 2 kids now, and had episiotomy with the first, a tear with the second and then later had a prolapse and stress incontinence diagnosed as a result of the deliveries. I've had so many doctors and nurses look, poke, prod and stick things up me, I'm just utterly sick of it. The bladder function xray was a particularly low point. 4 peiple in a room, while they test your bladder function and xray you at the same time. I came away from that one feeling very off and vulnerable.

I am not too bad about being examined, but it gets a bit much after a while. At the moment I'm on regular visits to the gynae clinic for pessary fittings, waiting for a bowel clinic exam for the prolapse, and an on the waiting list for bulking injections for my bladder. All of which involves more examinations and poking and prodding.

The joke about leaving the digity at the delivery room door is true, but no one tells you that you don't get your dignity back on the way out again.

Gosh I’m so sorry that all sounds horrible :(

You’re absolutely right about no one telling you you don’t always get your dignity back afterwards! I was fully expecting to have none when giving birth (and ultimately didn’t care at the time!) but, perhaps naively, didn’t even consider that would continue after I had my baby.

Really hope the end is in sight for you soon and you get everything sorted.

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