Feeling sad

[Augustbub]

Hello all, not sure what the middle of the night post is going to achieve but am feeling so sad. Just thinking that my baby is nearly 9 weeks and I've spent so much of it feeling bad for not getting stuff done and finding it hard, and feeling guilty that I should've just been cherishing this time with him more. Time is just going so fast and as he's my third the pressure of other stuff is a lot, and it's been hard. I don't know, guess I just feel guilty and want to press pause on it all and not find it all so tricky. Feel like am doing a bad job across the board tbh.

Sending you a handhold and an unMumsnetty hug.

Please don't be hard on yourself - parenting is so hard with just one child, let alone three! 9 weeks is still so tiny and emotions can be all over the place whilst you adjust to having a new family member, and there is always so much to do with children. It can feel overwhelming as you are pulled in so many different directions. Have you any support irl? There are only so many hours in the day - try and focus on getting only the essential jobs done, hand out lots of hugs and try and get some rest yourself. It will get easier and I am sure you are doing your best at a lovely but very tiring time

Awww lovely, you’re doing a fantastic job. I’m going to put money on you being tired,… scrap that exhausted!! Overwhelmed, seriously hormonal ( those buggers are running riot right now!). Firstly, be kind to yourself. Try and get some sleep. Do a to do list for tomorrow with max 5 things on it that you want to achieve. Stick to that and do no more. And when I say a list I don’t mean 1 item is to clean the house from top to bottom and run a marathon. Just simple things . 1 take a shower. 2 spend 1 hour with the older kids 3 wash the dishes 4 cook dinner, 5 rest when they sleep ( yeah right, but you should) if you just manage to complete this list you’ll feel you’ve accomplished something instead of juggling a million balls in the air and not catching any. Finally, breathe, download an app. You’re doing great and this time will pass!!

Thank you so much. Your lovely messages made me emotional. It's so hard isn't it, I know I'm so lucky but feel like I'm just complaining this special time away. Very, very supportive partner though he's just started a new job, no family nearby. Friends but no one in similar situation to us atm. It's really lovely of you to have taken the time to reply. The list idea and setting an hour aside for big kids sounds good. I retreat into my phone a lot around them and feel like when they get in from school I'm just not my best and tired and they don't get anything from me

Awww you’re welcome…It is soo hard. I remember this time very well and it’s exhausting and you just feel you’re supposed to be happy and enjoying every minute while looking like a catwalk model!! 😖🤦🏻‍♀️ Do we eck!!! Just 5 things, that’s it!! Take the pressure off … 🤗

Hey @Augustbub I think you're an amazing and wonderful mum, the way you write shows just that. The newborn days can be so tough and so tiring and yet you're still thinking about how much better you could make it. I'm sorry I have no good advice, but I am in awe of you as a mum of three juggling everything! I only have one DC and can't get it together. Lots of hugs and I hope you feel better soon, you're doing a fab job xxx

Thank you so much, it's such a juggle isn't it, definitely don't think it's easier with less or more kids, the worry and guilt is just the same ❤️

Hi Op how you feeling now? I hope you are feeling better. Xx