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Mental health in tatters

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SillyHam · 20/07/2024 21:27

Was fine after giving birth, newborn bubble for about 1.5 months after. Now I'm just a complete wreck.
I had a what I would call a traumatic birth, emergency c section after them telling me I need to induced and saying I would need forceps ( I had prepared and got itno my head I was having a natural birth did all the classes etc) feel ashamed I let myself give into medication and be manipulated by staff (hospital is known for horrific care, recent deaths of babies and mothers 😓)
It's really started to get to me where I've been obsessing over the birth, what I could've done differently, cry over why it went the way it did and stalking the reviews on Google tryna see if anyone has had similar.
I've started feeling really depressed to the point I want to kill myself, I haven't tried but have self harmed I just feel like every day is hell. The smallest inconvenience will send me into a Spiral and I'll yell about my partner and storm off going to bed for a few hours. We end up in arguments because I'll get triggered and rage off but he will make a remark to stick up for himself if say I say leave me alone you price, as obviously this is insulting to him. I've explained I don't mean it it's almost like a reflex that comes out and I just want to escape but our relationships is struggling now. Been referred to nhs talking therapy but I think he's skeptical to as if it will work and thinks maybe I'm just a bad person deep down.
I want to get better but in finding it so hard!! I don't feel like myself I feel like I'm in a loop of hell everyday and I'm tryna hold myself together with tape until I fall apart and melt down.

Looking to see if anyone has experienced this or something like this and if it gets better. I feel like I've really been effected by the birth and postnatal experience but because people have had it worse birth wise maybe it's not justified

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FannyFifer · 20/07/2024 21:33

You have post natal depression and probably PTSD. You need to make an urgent appointment with GP or if you are still thinking about hurting or killing yourself can you go to A&E.
I'm so sorry that you are feeling like this, you are not the only woman this happens to so please be kind to yourself, get help & things will get better.

AFlashOfLight · 20/07/2024 21:38

I agree with the pp. Please please get help. It really doesn't matter at this stage whether other people might have had worse birth experiences than you - the fact is, yours affected you in this way and that's all the justification you need. Hoping things can improve.

AFlashOfLight · 20/07/2024 21:38

I agree with the pp. Please please get help. It really doesn't matter at this stage whether other people might have had worse birth experiences than you - the fact is, yours affected you in this way and that's all the justification you need. Hoping things can improve.

Mumtobe202310 · 22/07/2024 15:14

Oh my, I feel you so much on the thinking what I could have differently during birth after a traumatic birth too. I was in shambles and obviously that spirals.

I am giving you a massive virtual hug.

It is sooo hard being in this state that you are in. I am seeking counselling for all of this. My advice to you is like the others have said, you need to seek help, go to your GP or speak to yiur Health Visitor.

The fact you are here asking for advice shows how strong you are and that you want to do everything you can for your baby.

We are so proud of you. The next step is definitely asking for help from professional. Please do this. You deserve goodness and a beautiful life with your baby and family. Lots of hugs to you.

You can also call the Samaritans 116 123

Please do get help though. Lots of love your way

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