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Issues being intimate after birth

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Charm24 · 16/07/2024 19:20

Hi all, hoping someone might be able to help with a bit of advice…

I gave birth to my second child a couple of months ago, I fell pregnant when my first was around 7 months so a short gap between them and don’t know if this has anything to do with what I’m experiencing.

My partner and I have tried to be intimate a few times since the birth but it was been unsuccessful. It was really uncomfortable, bordering pain, and I said to him that it almost felt like something was blocking him, when I took a look I noticed what I can only describe as some kind of body tissue at the entrance of my vagina opening. Although I have not looked at myself in detail for a long time, it’s definitely didn’t use to be there. I am not sure if it appeared during my pregnancy (we stopped have sex a couple of months before the birth as pregnancy hormones put me right off it) or if it has happened after the birth.

for information, both my births were c sections - one emergency and second one planned.

I went to the GP a few weeks ago, she took a look and said she has no concerns. She doesn’t think it looks like prolapse or a cyst (which I agree having seen pictures on line of these and they don’t look like what I can see) she said it could just be from the pressure of the pregnancy and might just sort itself out.

my question is, has anyone experienced anything similar and did it sort it self out or did you need medical intervention? I’m just wondering if I should really push the GP if I go and see them again. As it stands I currently cannot have sex with my partner and although we have been doing other things, i am now so scared to try sex again because of how uncomfortable it is for him to just put the tip in ( sorry for TMI!!!!)

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Sammie1990 · 16/07/2024 19:22

Hi
a bit different but I tried to use tampons 3 months after giving birth and it was excruciating so so bad I thought I could never use them again let alone have sex. However things slowly got better. I did have a vaginal birth though x

Mrsttcno1 · 16/07/2024 19:28

I had a similar issue OP but mine was I think due to the fact I had an episiotomy and forceps so there was a bit of damage down there😂 I sought advice and was basically checked over, they said everything looked fine, and to just keep trying at my own pace. I’m 12 weeks postpartum now and we’ve been able to have PIV sex for about 4 weeks now we just went really slowly, had a lot of failed attempts, used a LOT of lube at first and he would “help me out” first (sorry TMI) before we tried PIV to relax everything and make it more comfortable which did really work so some of that might work for you too! X

Cherubs4 · 16/07/2024 19:29

Sounds very painful and distressing, sorry you're going through that. It could be a prolapse, I would recommend going to a doctor to have it investigated.

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