how do i help..

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DD is now nearly 8 weeks postpartum with baby number 1.. shes struggling, shes been diagnosed PTSD fron a traumatic pregnancy and birth and also PND.

i want to help.. shes exhausted, shes like her mum and wont ask for help.. and i dont want to just muscle in..

whats the best things i can do to help?

Housework, shopping, cooking? Hold baby for her to have a bath. So often I see people saying ‘I’ll look after baby so you can get on with X’ but mostly we want to be with our babies, it’s the other stuff we need help with.

Hi
my baby is now 5 months old, thinking back to earlier days I actually just wanted some time alone not even to go out just to take a long bath, watch TV etc. could you offer to take baby for a long walk a couple of times a week if your daughter is okay being away from them. I remember the first time I accepted this from my mum and honestly it was like a reset.

Things I already do... whenever I see her I hug her first!... ask her what chores she needs done!

I take baby a couple of times a week, at her request!

I know she's tired but she says when she tries to sleep she can't!

We do their laundry.. buy in food.. she feels a failure needing any help!

Alas I suffered PND which turned into full blown chronic depression and it breaks my heart to see it!

She had a counsellor... won't take pills... is desperate to get it all right! It's exhausting her.

I seem to be doing as much as she needs but there must be more.. I assure her she's doing an awesome job, tell her these first few months are the worst...

I feel helpless

I think sometimes there is nothing anyone can do because it’s about the adjustment and acceptance of a ‘new life’ if that makes sense.