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Sammie1990 · 08/07/2024 23:36

Hi all,

need to word this correctly so that it makes sense so bare with!

i am currently 34 and have a 5 month DS. When I got pregnant I was working in a job I really enjoyed, taking my training in the gym seriously, which again I really enjoyed. Me and DP are financially stable and could afford to go on nice holidays etc.

I need to stress that I really love being a Mum to my DS and I absolutely adore him. However more recently I am starting to miss my old life. I wish I could have him as part of that life if that makes sense rather I feel like I have a ‘new life’ where the things that were important to me previously I now don’t have time for.

due to the nature of my job I made the decision I wouldn’t go back as it often involved 12-13 hour days. My DP runs his own business and although I earned good money it’s not needed to sustain the household. I felt that returning to my old job would be a selfish decision rather than in the interests of my family. However I really miss it and miss having something that tests me in a different way to being a Mum. I have started looking for part time roles with less responsibility so that I can work again.

also for obvious reasons I can’t dedicate myself to fitness like I did previously. I am back at the gym but because I am not doing it to the level I was previously I am also finding it unfulfilling.

I am out the house most days at baby related groups, swimming lessons etc and I’ve met some lovely new friends but I just don’t feel enthused.

im just interested to hear from others if they have experienced this feeling of almost having a ‘new life’ and does it pass and you start to feel like you again?

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
haveatye · 09/07/2024 00:16

To be honest - it eases but doesn't pass exactly. You mourn your old life, strain against the confines of the new one, make peace with the restriction and let the past go.

I have a 7yo and 5yo. Early 40s. They dominate my life but I can work and get out in the evenings sometimes. However it's still completely different to pre-child life.

You sound like you need a mental challenge. It's ok to be bored and not love everything about motherhood.

Also, kids are more interesting when they can talk etc. It does get more fulfilling. But old self is gone.

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