Post natal depression/ mental health or just a mum

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I’m almost 4 months post natal with my perfect baby girl, first baby and I’m wondering if the worries/anxieties I have are normal…

I worry quite a lot about something happening to her or to me. I would say daily I think about SIDS or something being wrong with my health that would take me away from her.

I have had to filter social media and TIKTOK to stop myself seeing horrible videos because it ends up playing on my mind. I wouldn’t say it’s something I think about all the time and it doesn’t stop my day to day life or mood but I’m concerned I shouldn’t be thinking like this, or is it just sort of normal to worry about things like that when your a new mum?

Hi OP, I think it depends on how frequently/for how long and how this worry affects your day. I think some worry is totally normal and to be expected, especially with you first baby, I have an 11 week old and do share these worries but not constantly and they don’t affect my day to day living

I wouldn’t say it’s for long periods or over taking my mind/life. I feel social media makes it worse when it’s constant videos of poorly babies/SIDS and I think about it and feel upset/anxious for a short while then I will distract myself and go do something.

Hi op

I completely relate to this. My DS is 5 months and I have thoughts about something happening to him or me daily. Generally my mood is quite good and I am coping well with a new baby so I’ve rationalised that it is just how being a new Mum makes you think. Like up until this point you’ve only been responsible for yourself now you have a tiny human to take care of..isn’t it normal to worry? Also you’ve never felt love like this before so again being scared it will be taken away I would say it also normal. I absolutely agree about social media..the algorithm feeds you things that make it worse.

I do think some level of this is completely normal. Why don't you speak to your health visitor and she what she thinks? Only reason I say this is I had quite a lot of thoughts re sids etc and was diagnosed with pnd but looking back now it was definitely way more post natal anxiety.