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worried about son's chest

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Mumtobe202310 · 06/07/2024 01:21

Hi everyone,

My elderly grandmother was holding my son today and entering the kitchen while I was just coming out of the bathroom.

She carried him before like 4 to 5 times and was fine, I think this time he has become a bit heavier since he is having solids now. He is 9 months old.

So, as I was just coming out and parking the slippers of the bathroom next to the door I was smiling at my mum who was singing to my son from the hallway as my grandma was bringing him over while carrying him.

As she was doing that, the stupid gold colour mental thingy which separates one room to another, her sandal caught it and she nearly slipped!!!! and my son was on her too!!!

My reflex didn't just try protect my son but her too, talk about mums intuition!! So basically, I just took feet out of my slippers and was walking out of bathroom and justtt, just about got both my arms out and pretty much brought my hands in together as if to make my gramdma and son hug, so like my left hand pushed against grandma's back and my right hand against my son's chest raising my grandma's body upwards.

I don't even know if I explained that well. I asked my grandma if she is okay and she was more worried about my little bubba bless her. And I reassured her he is fine and laughing and singing. After that, she was okay and we made sure she is well and not in pain.

Now, I am in a very anxious state because I am so so scared that what if my pressure against my son's chest was hard and what if that hurt his chest? He was fine, no crying, he resumed singing etc. But my head is not in the right state. I have PND and I find it difficult to sometimes distinguish reality from perception. Like, in my head if I think rational, I just know it was not hard at all, it was so light the way I held my grandma and son to hold them while bring in a state of shock myself. But then there is that anxiety ridden part of me that is worrying.

Do you think my son is okay and will be fine??

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WednesdayWeWearPink · 06/07/2024 01:25

If he didn’t cry, you clearly didn’t hurt him. And that means that whilst you might feel there was a lot of pressure, there clearly wasn’t, as otherwise he would have cried!

So he’s fine.

And you are amazing to catch the both of them like that! Well done!!

Are you getting support for your PND?

Mumtobe202310 · 06/07/2024 01:32

WednesdayWeWearPink · 06/07/2024 01:25

If he didn’t cry, you clearly didn’t hurt him. And that means that whilst you might feel there was a lot of pressure, there clearly wasn’t, as otherwise he would have cried!

So he’s fine.

And you are amazing to catch the both of them like that! Well done!!

Are you getting support for your PND?

Thank you so much for your reply!

It just helps so much being brought back to reality with a shift in perspective so thank you so much.

I'm not really getting the help that I thought I would. I had perinatal care which meant I had a counsellor before giving birth and I was told that I would be able to get that same help anytime before my baby is 1 years old. When I contacted them, they didn't even seem to know anything like this and I pressed on and was firm and said I was told that I am able to use this service until my baby is 1 and they said they will see what they can do.

They got in touch with me and just signposted counselling services near me and most were private and they gave me some self help link to watch videos which I don't think are helpful because I know majority of those things anyway. I just needed a constant person to speak to.

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Sammie1990 · 08/07/2024 23:15

Hi Op

ive had a couple of ‘accidents’ with my DS and he has been absolutely fine. First on holiday I slipped on wet floor after coming out of the pool holding him ( he is 5 months) as I fell backwards I lifted him in the air so he wouldn’t bang his head taking the full weight in my back (severely bruised rib). He screamed and screamed from the shock and I was convinced he has banged himself…my partner saw the fall from outside and had to convince me there was absolutely no way he had been hurt.

second time he rolled off the sofa whilst in the care of a relative and banged his head on the floor. Again I was absolutely convinced he was severely hurt despite him only crying for about 30 seconds (I did get him checked and everything was fine) i think it’s normal for you to convince yourself something must be wrong because we care so much but babies/kids will get the odd bump from time to time. However if you are worried there is no harm in getting him checked xx

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