Overnight stay

[phoebepaynter27]

Hey so I just have a quick question, when I have given birth I can obviously only have one person stay overnight with me, so if I decided that I wanted my mum to stay with me instead of the babies dad, is that wrong? (Me and the babies dad are not together) My friends are saying that it's wrong of me to even think about not having him be the one to stay over night.

If you’re not together with him then of course it’s better to choose your mum! You need someone to look after you, someone who will have your best interests front and centre and with whom you feel completely comfortable.

Who are these ‘friends’? Don’t sound like very good ones.

If you are not together, then no I wouldn't let him stay.

You choose, not your friends

Post-partum, I would only have wanted my most trusted support with me, and that wouldn't be an ex.

Your feelings are the priority. The baby will be fine as long as you are there.

In your situation I think you should have your mum with you. It'd be different if you and the baby's dad were together. You need someone who has your back and will take care of you, and if that's your mum - choose her.

Your choice

Why on earth would you have him there?!?!

Not wrong at all but double check the hospital
Does actually accept overnight stays , both hospitals I've given birth at kicked my husband out by 7pm

As @sleepandcoffee says, many will only allow partners to stay until a certain time.
IME, I had 2 birth partners who both stayed until DD was born at 3am. DSis went home after this, DH stayed until 8am when my mum arrived. The following night (CS so stayed another night after the night of the birth) no partner between 8pm-8am.
Defo check with the hospital.
But to answer your question, have whoever will support YOU the very best. No one can decide who that is, better than you.

Yes the hospital does allow overnight stays for the birth partner