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Pregnancy/Labour Debreif

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OnMyJourney · 28/11/2023 21:48

Hi, I had my baby girl 3 weeks ago and the last few weeks of my pregnancy were horrible, I had preeclampsia and a really iffy hospital stay, I was just wondering if they'd do a debrief for my whole hospital stay or would it just be my birth? I was there for 2 weeks before having my baby girl. And for those of you who had a debrief was it worth it, did it make a difference? And how would you go about getting one? If it helps the story of what happened is below 😊 thank you!

I was diagnosed with preeclampsia at 35 weeks and I stayed in the hospital until I was 37 weeks and had my baby, my hospital stay leading up to being induced was not the greatest I had issues and questions that doctors and midwives never answered. It was a very stressful event for me, I was already upset due to having preeclampsia, having to stay in the hospital away from my partner, I still had more to prepare before the baby came, I was being giving high dosages of medication (which I asked if it gave me or baby side affects they said no and after birth my baby had health issues due to these meds) and I just wasn't ready for her to be born I wanted her in my belly for a bit longer, but I then had a quick induction with an okay birth, they didn't believe how much pain I was in, epidural failed, they told me I couldn't push yet when I was ready to, tried to send my partner to get food when I was 9cm like lol no, after birth I was on the TCU where I got no sleep, baby was having a lot of stuff done, they took her to the NICU and didn't explain why, student midwives telling me she was having seizures when she wasn't (she was doing the startle reflex) she was in a hot cot, had multiple heel prick tests and she screamed every single time and she wasn't eating as the teat on the bottle they gave me was too big, I told 4 midwives this over 2 days and was ignored every time until 1 midwife listened to me and we gave her a different teat which worked! I was finally allowed to go home after 3 days of her being born which doesn't seem long but it was horrible after being in there for so long! This experience has made me scared to have another baby...

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Mumtobe202310 · 29/11/2023 13:44

First of all, congratulations mama! I hope you and your little one are doing well. I can tell how much care and love you have for your child even before she was born so please know you are doing an amazing job.

I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that. I hope you get the help and answers to recover.

I asked my hospital for a debrief so basically I went to Google and typed hospital name and then typed maternity debrief next to it and a form came up, I filled it in and they get in touch with you and schedule a meeting. I haven't had mine yet as it's in December.

Please ask for a debrief as soon as you can. All the best mama, you got this x

OnMyJourney · 30/11/2023 00:03

@Mumtobe202310

Thank you so much 🥹 I really do love my baby girl, it was a very tough time for me not being able to carry her to 40 weeks, I really wasn't ready to share her with the world yet I wanted to keep her safe for a few more weeks, it was just heartbreaking that her safe place wasn't in my belly anymore 😭

Thank you I can't seem to find the debrief for my hospital on Google, I have a GP appointment soon so I think I'll ask my GP when I see him

I hope your debrief goes well for you and all your questions are answered, I'm guessing your birth/labour didn't quite go how you expected. I really hope it answers everything for you. I feel so put off having another baby so I'm really hoping the debrief helps

I hope you and your little one are doing well ❤️xx

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Mumtobe202310 · 30/11/2023 00:29

You are most welcome. And I seek to understand where you're coming from because I get the same. Despite being full term there are things I am upset about such as fast birth which I was not expecting as a first time mum and not remembering my birth experience and when my baby was laid on my chest due to shock and being put in gas and air so much etc. And also my goodness you feel the same way I do about keeping my baby inside of me safe!! I wasn't ready either although full term, I just knew he was so safe inside me and I used to tell this to everyone and they used to think I'm mad haha. I'm glad you feel like me too. I really miss my bump although I was so cautious with it everywhere. Thank you, I hope I get answers too. And noo don't let it put you off! I tell myself that what's meant to be will be and all things have their own time and way of getting to us. Just know that we will be better prepared next time and be able to advocate better. Prepare questions to ask them so e.g. I've written some questions on my notes app whenever I remember something cos pregnancy brain is still there lol. We are doing well thank you. You got this❤️

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