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incognito78 · 28/11/2023 00:34

So I don’t get what it is but my husband is literally obsessed with our daughter in a healthy way Ofcourse but I’ve realised that he doesn’t talk to me about anything else. And she’s equally in awe of him. All day she’s saying dad dad where’s my dad. He works all over the place and he’s rarely at home and even when he’s home he’s playing the play station and I’m with her all day and night everyday. Since I’ve had both my kids I’ve not had a single day off or even an hr to myself. And that’s not even a joke. I’m with them 24/7.

When it comes to me he comes from work he’ll sit on the play station till 2 in the morning and the come see me when I’m too tired. Almost as though he’s waiting for me to sleep before he comes

I just don’t understand her fascination with her dad when he very rarely does anything with her maybe half n hr a day or when we go out once a week for a few hours he’ll look after her but that’s it.

I do absolutely everything for both of them. And she only ever comes to me if she needs something or she can’t sleep without me unless she’s absolutely exhausted. She does kiss me the most or cuddle me the most but honestly I feel like I’m not going something right.

My son who’s 8 months old is equally is aww of me and doesn’t really reach out for anyone but I don’t know I feel abit hurt if I’m honest

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Mirrormeback · 28/11/2023 01:54

You're tired and a break

He needs to zone out after being at work and will also be tired

Hopefully you can all have some time together over Christmas and relax a bit together a bit more

Mirrormeback · 28/11/2023 01:55

*need a break

Mirrormeback · 28/11/2023 01:55

You need some nights out with other mums

SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 29/11/2023 07:42

Her fascination will be that you're tired and do all of those boring things, like make sure she eats.

What time is he home in the evening and is he home at the weekends? I can't see why he is leaving absolutely everything to you.

AnnaTortoiseshell · 29/11/2023 07:46

A man that comes home and plays games every day til 2am and does nothing for his kids is not obsessed with them.

He sounds like a waste of space. What does he actually contribute?!

Ollifer · 29/11/2023 07:58

Kids don't think about who does everything for them op, it doesn't really work like that until they are much much older. Your husband doesn't sound like he's obsessed with your kids at all if he's not really being arsed with them.

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