Still Worried about daughter, 20 months pp

[Missmamaa]

Hello all,

I’ll cut straight to it.

I drank heavily until finding out I was 7 and a half weeks pregnant, nearly daily.
Now sober, I can now admit I did have a dependence problem.

However I struggled with guilt and severe pre natal depression which carried over and resulted into post natal depression and anxiety.

I am sad to sad I compare my little girl features to others and have done since she was 5 months old or so.
i love her with all my heart but I fear I my drinking has resulted in her having some features related to fas.

I have seen GPs, peds and they have all told me they do not see what I am seeing. I was even reffered to generics just to put my mind at ease, they too said they don’t see what I see. I have prescribed setraline but have yet to start.

She is and has been advanced so - walking since 9 months, has said about 90 words, She is happy, she knows and sings alongs to songs, knows colours, animals etc. This is the only thing that brings me comfort however I know it is a spectrum and problems could arise later in life.

I have thoughts on a few of her dreariness but I have uploaded a photo of her eyes, I know they are not big as other babies but do they indicate fasd? I am worried about the length and shape - If you have knowledge in this area, I would appreciate your thoughts

In the meantime I am re starting therapy to deal with my anxiety

Thank you kindly

Her eyes look perfect, stop beating yourself up and best of luck with your therapy

I am not a medical professional, but my understanding is that it's not until 10-12 weeks that a placenta is fully formed and takes over sustaining the baby, and that's the point at which drinking can cause issues. If you found out at 7.5 weeks and went cold turkey at that point, there shouldn't be an issue.

I had been TTC for almost a year and had just assumed I was infertile at the point I conceived my DC, and didn't find out until 6 weeks ish. I had had a few heavy social drinking occasions prior to finding out, and all is fine with my DC who is 2 ish now.

There is no exchange of blood between the placenta and the mother's body until 8 weeks.
She looks perfectly normal & lovely.