Day 4, hormones- help 😭

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Hi all,

I gave birth to my beautiful daughter in the early hours of Friday morning. Mostly uncomplicated birth and got home on Saturday afternoon. I’ve been feeling very grateful, content and in love with our newest addition. My milk started to come in yesterday I think and in the evening I started to weep over this being my last baby, getting older, life etc etc and laughed and me and my husband could agree it was definitely the hormone dip alongside my milk coming in causing it like everyone had warned me before.

due to my milk coming in my boobs have changed and baby is having issues attaching so let’s just say last night was awful. She was distressed, I was distressed, I then became worried about the noises she was making, her breathing etc. woke my husband who was in with our three year old and cue the absolute meltdown I was demented thinking something was wrong, that I was Ill and getting psychosis blah blah my husband eventually managed to get me up to bed for a few hours and I’m better today but feel incredibly anxious, a bit shaken and worried my MH is going to decline. Is this all part of the baby blues at this stage whilst my hormones regulate? So sorry for the long post, and reassurance would be so appreciated 🤍

Hey OP.
Huge congrats on the safe arrival of your baby!

We now laugh about 'Day three' - with both of my babies I was a blubbering wreck during that period. I can remember howling and laughing at myself the same time about a Waitrose advert. So very strange.

It's really good to be mindful of your MH, but don't give yourself additional stress by worrying that you're getting PND - you are settling into being a Mum of two. Your babies will be different & make different noises, feed differently etc. Everything has changed in the lady 72h and everyone's learning. This will pass.

Speak to your midwife when you next see her, or if your anxiety doesn't improve & keep talking to your DH. Rest as much as you can and lots of skin to skin to keep everyone calm.
& the endorphins flowing.

Thanks so much @JaxiiTaxii. I just don’t understand the complete switch flip of being in control, happy and content to a complete mess and looking at my DD filled with anxiety. My husband is amazing and so so supportive. I’m already on sertraline for a wee dip in my MH in the third trimester so I guess I’m more conscious of that and analysing my mood and whether it’s normal. Nothing I’ve said in my post is concerning you?! 🫣

thanks for being so kind 🤍

If it's worrying you & especially if you still feel as anxious, it's best to trust yourself & speak to a midwife ASAP 💕 they will be able to provide more reassurance & advise what to do.

How are you feeling now? How has your day been?

I’m feeling ok, still crying and feeling low and anxious. My amazing mother in law is coming to stay the night and I have a care assistant (not sure her proper title) coming out tomorrow and hopefully will help me with the feeding and talk me through some of the feelings I’m having xx

So pleased you have support & a professional coming to see you today.

Everything crossed you start to feel a little more 'you' as your hormones settle down over the next few days.

I remember standing in the kitchen weeping into my cereal for no reason at all.

Hopefully it’s just the hormones and it will settle down, but it’s really good that you’ve got support and you’re mindful of keeping an eye on your mood. Hope you feel better soon x