4 month baby blues?

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General opinions needed please! Is it normal to have baby blues 4 months in?
I love my DS to death but at the moment I just don’t feel like I’m making him happy and feel like I’m failing him somehow. He’s seems fed up in my company? Feel like we’ve lost some sort of connection? He belly laughs with his Dad but I feel like I’m just his moo cow and that’s it. I get occasional smiles.
Making me feel a bit rubbish.
Is this normal? Am I reading too much into it? Just want him to like me haha!!

I think you’re reading too much into this. My DD2 was the same - all giggles for daddy but not as much for me. She is a complete mummy’s girl now at 3. Your DS will see you as his source of safety and comfort.

It's a hard time. I think the blues really hit me around three months when my periods came back, despite breastfeeding. It's so hard. You are his world and he probably doesn't know he's a separate person to you yet. Can you get some help? I ended up getting a lot of perinatal support and really helped me

Thanks for your replies.
My husband is the best but besides his Mum and Dad, we’re limited on family support. My family are at the other side of the country which I suppose isn’t helping my mood much! Feel a bit lonely I guess but suppose all new Mum’s feel like that!!

Definitely a lonely time. Are there any groups you can join?

My town has a Facebook page for “Town Name Mums”. Maybe search for something like that. Loads of activity ideas and recommendations for groups.

I’ve had a look and they’re all so expensive and want money up front for a term but will keep digging as apparently there are free ones!
Shouldn’t complain because I am blessed and he’s great. Just nice to know I’m not the only one. Thought the blues was for a week after birth not 4 months!

Find a mum and baby group rather than a baby class. We also have bump and baby walks near me that are free.

Nct do free meet ups and stay and play groups, you don’t need to be a member, search their website with your postcode.

Also Google your local council and children’s centre for free baby groups and classes, as well as medical, social and financial help. I only recently found out about these at 4 months and it’s such a relief to find free local activities to meet other mums and babies. We even went in a free baby first aid course at our children’s centre, great places!

Also I feel you about being babies moo cow, and I don’t get anywhere near as many laughs and smiles as dad 🙄

Oooh thanks all. Will look for free ones. It’s nice to have a rant on here and have other Mums in my situation understand!

Try libraries and family hubs for free groups. Getting out and chatting to other mums makes a huge difference to my mood.