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6 month old getting excited for grandad

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incognito786 · 28/08/2023 20:57

I live with my in laws but I’m the primary caregiver for both of my children. One is 18 months and the other is 6 months.

Up until recently my son only had eyes for me but I’ve noticed the last two days he’s getting overly excited for his grandad. His grandad barely holds him and when he does he literally just holds him doesn’t play or anything. He’s even started to get excited for his dad which he wasn’t before. I find it strange as I do every feed every single change: I tend to him when he cries I play with him the most I hold him up the most

The most he's done is come get him if he cries or just walk around with him for abit. Not alot at all. I stopped allowing him to do that as he did that with my daughter and my daughter jsut wanted to be walked around all the time and it made me unwell. As I have pnd

Why do u think that is?

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continentallentil · 28/08/2023 22:47

Well babies naturally want to form relationships with different people, it’s good for them. It’s something to encourage.

Do you really have to stop their grandfather walking them around? That’s good for them too. Why does it make you ill and have you seen the doctor for your PND?

Tinyant · 28/08/2023 23:02

babies settle with motion and distraction, why would you stop them trying to settle your child?
I think (in the kindest way possible) you need to seek some extra help for pnd/anxiety

HeddaGarbled · 28/08/2023 23:05

The most he's done is come get him if he cries or just walk around with him for abit. Not alot at all

That’s not a little thing, though. That’s a really good thing, IMO.

Clefable · 28/08/2023 23:08

This is a bit of an odd post, OP. Are you okay?

HeddaGarbled · 28/08/2023 23:12

*The most he's done is come get him if he cries or just walk around with him for abit. Not alot at all

That’s not a little thing, though. That’s a really good thing, IMO*

Helpful, but not overstepping. Appropriate for a grandfather and respectful of your role as mother.

Smartiepants79 · 28/08/2023 23:20

Why would it be strange that your child is starting to notice and respond to other people? Especially his own father and grandparent? Your OP suggests that, at 6 months, he’s only just started to respond to his dad which is stranger in my opinion.
Its totally normal for a baby of this age to be excited to see different people. Especially those familiar to him such as grandparents.

UsingChangeofName · 28/08/2023 23:29

Have to agree with all the posts so far.
This is quite a worrying post.
Why would anyone not want their baby to enjoy time with different people?
Why would anyone think it bad that adults understand most babies respond to being walked around ?
You don't sound well.
Do you have someone you can talk to about this? Can you make an appointment with the HV ?

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incognito786 · 28/08/2023 23:48

UsingChangeofName · 28/08/2023 23:29

Have to agree with all the posts so far.
This is quite a worrying post.
Why would anyone not want their baby to enjoy time with different people?
Why would anyone think it bad that adults understand most babies respond to being walked around ?
You don't sound well.
Do you have someone you can talk to about this? Can you make an appointment with the HV ?

In response to the above messages I have PND and are receiving treatment

These things are an issue as when my daughter was born these things would happen without my consent including feeding her sweet things, walking off with her, not letting me hold her when she was born as everyone else wanted to hold her. Each time she cried they wouldn't let me get her.

When she did develop an attachment to her grandparents they would play on it as in walk away from her till she cried then came to get her and would do it repeatedly.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/08/2023 23:48

Hi op, my baby can often do the best smiles for others like random waitresses over mega I think they think were part of the furniture as we are always there. He does give my mirror reflection nice smiles though!

Thelonelygiraffe · 29/08/2023 00:11

The most he's done is come get him if he cries or just walk around with him for abit. Not alot at all. I stopped allowing him to do that as he did that with my daughter and my daughter jsut wanted to be walked around all the time and it made me unwell

What? How can someone else walking your baby around make you unwell?

This makes no sense at all.

tt9 · 29/08/2023 00:49

OP what you are describing are family members who love your DC. I don't know what cultural background you/your IL are from - but certainly in South Asian (my) culture, this is all normal. I think perhaps the PND is affecting your emotional responses. you will start to feel better. your DC will be your DC no matter what, but development of wider relationships inside and outside the family is essential for babies' cognitive and social development

116a · 29/08/2023 11:01

Him walking around with your child made you unwell?

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