Postpartum rage towards my older kids

[Mummyof4andahalf]

Hi everyone,
so I gave birth to my 4th baby about almost 3 weeks ago (4th C-section), and I've realized that emotionally and mentally things are much harder than they were with my previous kids. I have 2 girls (6&4) and a boy (3) and now a newborn.

Maybe it's because of the 4th baby or something but I've noticed how annoying my kids are.. my eldest daughter is a world class whiner, she's constantly crying and complaining. My 4 year old girl has the biggest attitude and she's a know-it-all and my son has the most irritating and high pitched voice and scream.

I just want to fling myself off the balcony! Sure, people always pointed those things out about my kids but I used to say 'my daughter is a sensitive person' or 'I love that my daughter is confident in herself and can stand up for herself' or 'my son is still young and can't articulate himself properly that's why he shouts'

Now those things are making me go nuts and I'm constantly shouting at them and getting frustrated! 😭😭

Did any of you feel like that with your kids or just generally enraged? Please help 🥺

Take a deep breath... Do you have a partner or family that can take them for a few hours a day? They're probably bored and struggling to adjust to the new set up. You're exhausted from looking after the baby and doing everything that needs to be done with so little sleep.
Remember they're all very young including the 6 year old and although they are huge compared to the baby they're still babies themselves and are probably feeling insecure so acting out a bit more.
Try getting them involved in looking after the baby, snacks and tv for a bit. Once everyone is fed and well that is a win for the day. If someone can take them to the park even better. Make sure to ask for help and use your support network.
Also try to rest and remember to eat, take it easy and congrats 👏

Also speak to your doctor or HV.x