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Postnatal health

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Couldn't feel less sexual if I tried

6 replies

caggas · 23/06/2023 16:01

I've not wanted to have sex at all since my son was born 6 months ago, I've not felt turned on once, I'm just not interested. But it's even more than that, I was watching a program which had a sex scene (the idol, a bloody lot of them) and found myself literally eye rolling at the scenes and fast forwarding. Just not interested. Used to want a half hour to myself every now and then too iykwim and nope, couldn't care less.

Is this normal? I am exclusively breastfeeding which might be part of it? Im not sure my husband will be overly keen if I stay this way forever but is understanding and patient obviously.

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Cdoc · 23/06/2023 17:00

No advice Op but just that I feel the same! Baby is 16 weeks and also exclusively breastfeeding. Not interested in sex in the slightest. I think it could be partly hormonal, sorry if tmi but I am absolutely dry as a bone down there which I don’t think helps (have googled and this is apparently normal when breastfeeding).

wineschmine · 23/06/2023 17:51

I think breastfeeding can effect libido

your body wants to nurture the baby you have, not conceive another.

Mine didn't really come back even after I stopped breastfeeding though. I make the effort when I feel up to it, but really I could take it or leave it (would rather leave it).

ElmTree22 · 26/06/2023 21:06

Dd is 8months and I'm exactly the same. We have sex maybe once a month now. I just don't have the desire at all.

CatchHimDerry · 26/06/2023 21:08

Mine is just turned 1 and I struggle with this too, still BF alongside his meals not sure if that’s part of it

Srx1 · 05/07/2023 22:21

Same here! 8 months postpartum. I love my husband and I don't want anyone else but I just haven't felt like it. I'm worried it will affect our relationship. I'm also still BF.

User65412 · 06/07/2023 01:09

Yep! With my first, I did end up having sex at 9 months because we wanted another baby. When I was pregnant I was keen as anything. Now the baby is 8 months and I couldn't be less interested. It's the breastfeeding for me I'm sure.
I'm sure this is very normal if not much discussed. I told my husband that back rubs or stroking my arm etc would all be nice in this time that I'm not interested!

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