How long until I'll be fun again for toddler after birth

[NewtothisFBK4921]

Hi everyone, people who have had 2 or more, can you tell me how long it took until you felt really fun with your toddler again post birth? I have a 2.5 yr old and due with second in a month's time. I'm so excited for second but feel sad I've been pregnant for so long and haven't been my funnest version of myself for our gorgeous toddler, and won't be for some time after the baby comes. She's growing up so much at the moment and I feel like I'm missing it in some ways by being pregnant. I can't throw her around, or chase her which she loves etc. And I dread being super tired after birth and physically weak and less able to be fun. We still have a lovely time together doing lots of reading, chatting etc but I want it all! They are so little for such a short amount of time I want to savour every second.

How long did it take you after the birth of your second until you felt back to being physically and emotionally fully fun with your eldest?

Years for me. But then I had a nightmare first born, so...that didn't help.

I can't remember exactly, but I do know that I found being heavily pregnant with a toddler was harder (for me) than newborn plus toddler! Good luck OP.

Not that long. Maybe 10 days. When I was heavily pregnant and DC1 was 2.5 he realised he could run away from me and I couldn’t catch him. Did it a lot- especially in shopping centers. His little surprised face when he ran away in our Garden and i easily caught him is a happy memory.

I was on holiday abroad after my 2nd when she was 7 weeks, just say the birth was also an absolutely horrendous moment in time hahahah. But really probably 10 days - 2 weeks I started to feel not run over by a bus.. 3 weeks I felt normal

Hey @NewtothisFBK4921

2nd time mama here 8 weeks post C-Section fully healed (on the outside at least) and back to being the fun mum for my 3 year old that I was before pregnancy!!😁

I too had the same worries as you, mum guilt 😫 it will be fine and you will hopefully slip into the groove of things after a couple of weeks Xx

PS I'm still a raging hormonal biatch to my lovely husband sometimes though😅😬

Oh amazing thank you everyone! That's not too long. I remember being sore and tired for so long after no.1, hopefully it's easier second time around as you're already used to lack of sleep/being a mum etc.

I have 100% found it easier this time round! I don't know if it's because my second is a better sleeper or it's just not affecting me as much as I knew what was coming so not such a shock to the system! 😂

With my first I was a zombie for pretty much an entire 12 months lol it's all a blur ☹️