Dp horrible about my baby weight

[Sweetbabydust1989]

So gave birth 9 weeks ago and well for the last couple of weeks dp had not stopped with his snide digs about my weight!!! I honestly feel like shit it's been a rough time my baby was diagnosed with CMPA and reflux so spent weeks dealing with that pretty much had nonexistent sleep as my little one would scream morning noon and night we finally have little one sorted now.. oh aswell as looking after our 2 other children.. so apparently according to him I should be in the gym with my baby strapped to my back doing squats because apparently that's what every postpartum mum does a few weeks after giving birth!! I am sick of it now it's constant I don't eat in front of him anymore if he dishes dinner up I eat a small portion and bin the rest I don't dare look at the chocolate or biscuits in the cupboard.. i don't undress in front of him and I don't have sex with him... I am currently going through ptsd due to the serve CMPA and screaming my little one was doing for weeks and I feel like I am now depressed feel so low 🥲

Maybe get rid of the lump of shit you married first.

Has he any good points?

Take yourself off out to the gym then OP.

Four hours every evening when he gets home from work, leaving him to care for the kids.

PS just sit in the sauna and the cafe for those four hours obviously!

He sounds horrendous. Was he like this with your other two children? What is he like as a partner otherwise? I suspect not very supportive or nice…

was going to suggest he looks after the kids whilst you look after yourself. By that I mean go to the cinema and get yourself some nachos!
disrespectful fucker

Lose 15 stone. Boot the DP out the door.

He can look after the kids whilst you go to the gym every week day evening. Do ten mins of exercise and spend the rest of the hour in the sauna 🤣 or a quick way to lose 13 stone is to dump his ass

Second taking yourself off to the ‘gym’ for a couple of hours, several times a week. He can look after the kids

He sounds awful. How dare he. What does he actually say?

9 weeks!!

Fuck that. He’s an arsehole. And you shouldn’t be doing squats necessarily anyway. Body/ Core needs gentle restoration to ensure the corset muscles and diastis knit together again correctly.

I am 6 months pp, didn’t put on any weight in pregnancy, have been ebf so thin as a rake ( my wrists look like they have whittled away) but my stomach is still looking 5 months pregnant after a meal; and around 4 months pregnant the rest of the time. It’s not fat, it’s just your body. 9 months in and 9 months back they say (although does it ever really go back I am yet to know!)

I have only just started rehabilitation exercise last week. Super gentle Pilates 1-1 reformer and Cadillac. Find a 1-1 and send him the bill. My sessions so far have been hardly exercise more just resetting my neutral - lying straight, standing straight, breathing etc.

Well he’s not ‘D’P for a start!

My daughter is 5 months old, and I’ve not started properly exercising yet and I’m heavier than I was immediately after birth because I spend too much sat on my bottom eating biscuits or having coffee and cake instead of being on my feet like I was at work so I would say you were phenomenal if you were in the gym in your circumstances!

Is he normally a dick?

He is a disgrace

Congratulations on your little one! Xx

Your husband is an arsehole and probably not the best looking or in perfect shape so what's his excuse? He didn't just carry a healthy human inside him for 9mo but you did. Give yourself some credit and seriously try and ignore him because what you've done is amazing and incredible. You should be taken care of not put down

Remind him that your pregnancy (which has resulted in a bit of extra weight) was initiated by HIS activity.

Are you sinking under this? Do not - you must speak your mind.

Wow thanks ladies well I actually cannot remember how he was back then as my 2 other kids are much older.. I couldn't believe it I was like wtf are you going on about gym it's because he sees these so called Z listers popping out kids and back to their size 6 skinny selfs well I am sure if I had their surgeon and nannies I would be like that!! I am not even huge.. I was think that just fucking off to the "gym" every night and see how he copes 😂.. i just couldn't believe my ears like come on it takes 9 months to grow and baby!!

Horrific 😠😢

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this.

What an arse. Which parts of his body is he sensitive about? Hair loss? “Ooh, DP, your hair is thinning much faster!” Too skinny? “DP, I saw some really built guys in the gym when I popped in today. Why don’t you have muscles like that?” And so on. The constant critique can work both ways…

Congratulations in your baby. Be kind to yourself. In nine months time you’ll be slim, but he will always be an arsehole.

I just don't understand he says he is messing around however I no it's personal.. I told him he needs to back off and if he doesn't like the way I look that's on him and he nos where the bin bags and door are!! I just found it comical that he thinks all women are straight back in the gym with their babies strapped to them within weeks of giving birth I would love to no where he thinks I have time to do it as I am being a mama to our kids morning noon and night!! Our little one has required a lot of care and attention for the last 7 weeks due to her conditions I have had to fight to get her CMPA diagnosis as stupid hv and doctors kept saying it was baby acne when it wasn't I now have serve high blood pressure due to the intense stress and nonexistent sleep and most likely PND and ptsd.., I swear he thinks the fairies must come out and do the cleaning, washing, ironing, school runs, food shopping, cooking, taking care of the kids. I am glad you all have supportive partners and husbands that wouldn't contemplate getting your gym memberships 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 I honestly blame social media and all those bollocks reality tv shows for example towie it's so unrealistic yes some women bounce back into their pre pregnancy jeans within weeks of giving birth however every one carries differently I ate a very healthy diet during pregnancy no tea/coffee so much fruit and veg it I craved it i also have serve morning sickness xx

Saying maicioisnandncruelntjibhsbtjen pretending to be messing around is not only bullshit it’s also a massive insult to your intelligence

it’s very upsetting to read all the ways in which you feel you need to justify why you are the way you are. You don’t need to. Ever but even more so not right now. You deserve so much better than this treatment. Personally I feel that right now he should be trying to justify why you shouldn’t leave him after indefensible bullying and cruelty at a time when he should be absolutely cherishing you.
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Sorry that gibberish should read “saying malicious and cruel things then pretend to be messing around”

Insulting someone and then saying, I'm joking! when challenged on it, and suggesting you're "too sensitive" is a form of manipulation.

You sound like you're really overwhelmed at the moment, and I hope you have some friends and family for support, because you're not getting it from him are you?

Hope things get easier, you might find if you did shed 15 stone of pure dickhead that things would get a lot easier for you.