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Every. Single. Night!

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BlueBunny23 · 30/09/2022 22:56

My baby is 4 days old and since the day she was born she has been extremely unsettled at bed time. She sleeps fine during the day and takes her feeds, poops and pees, brings up wind, it all seams fine. Then come 8pm when we head up to bed it’s like a different baby. Waking every 10-15 mins crying and crying I’ll give her dummy and that lasts another 10-15 mins it’s been spat out she’s crying again I try another feed even though she’s not due, she takes a very small amount and falls back asleep I lay her back down 10 mins later she’s off again. This goes on and on and on until my 4 year old gets up around 7am. Then she settles and wants to sleep peacefully and then continues to do so all day until 8pm again. I’m absolutely exhausted I needed an emergency c section, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and all I can find online is to try and co sleep which I’m very scared of doing incase me or my partner roll on her or cover her face or something bad happens. What could be wrong here? My midwife comes tomorrow as it’s day 5 so I hope she can shed some light

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October2020 · 30/09/2022 22:58

This is completely normal. It lasted about 6 weeks for us. It doesn't last forever. You're doing brilliantly. X

User478 · 30/09/2022 23:13

Totally normal, totally frustrating!

Boot DH out to the sofa and cosleep.

Winceybincey · 30/09/2022 23:33

Baby can’t tell day from night yet. This will last for around a month. Newborn babies feed on demand, even if it’s just one oz they need, they need it. Feeding schedules aren’t advised these days as it goes against baby’s instincts. I know the pain though I was forever feeding my last baby.

your eldest was probably different or you may not remember the early weeks as they are a blur. But all babies are different, my middle child just slept constantly around the clock. My last baby was awake more at night than in the day and constantly wanted milk.

It will get better op, just need to ride out the early weeks x

minitures · 30/09/2022 23:54

BlueBunny23 · 30/09/2022 22:56

My baby is 4 days old and since the day she was born she has been extremely unsettled at bed time. She sleeps fine during the day and takes her feeds, poops and pees, brings up wind, it all seams fine. Then come 8pm when we head up to bed it’s like a different baby. Waking every 10-15 mins crying and crying I’ll give her dummy and that lasts another 10-15 mins it’s been spat out she’s crying again I try another feed even though she’s not due, she takes a very small amount and falls back asleep I lay her back down 10 mins later she’s off again. This goes on and on and on until my 4 year old gets up around 7am. Then she settles and wants to sleep peacefully and then continues to do so all day until 8pm again. I’m absolutely exhausted I needed an emergency c section, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and all I can find online is to try and co sleep which I’m very scared of doing incase me or my partner roll on her or cover her face or something bad happens. What could be wrong here? My midwife comes tomorrow as it’s day 5 so I hope she can shed some light

It's day 4.. totally normal. Just sounds like she has no idea about day or night yet. This lasted for a week for us. Hang in there the super early days are tough!

PritiPatelsMaker · 01/10/2022 08:22

Totally normal. I don't think most people do bedtimes with newborns. Could you just keep her downstairs with you until you're ready to go to bed?

It might be worth having a look at the safe bed sharing guidelines to help you with your worries about having her in your bed as well.

Congratulations on your new LO Flowers

trrk · 01/10/2022 10:29

Mine was nocturnal for the first week or so but got better. Maybe try taking baby out in the pram during daylight to start setting up the body clock. If you have a partner try to get some help settling the baby and doing everything apart from feeding (if EBF) or do shifts with your partner if bottle feeding.

I didn’t want to co-sleep but even if I had I think it would have been hard post C-section as I had to sleep propped up on a giant pile of pillows for ages to get comfortable.

PritiPatelsMaker · 01/10/2022 21:33

Hope that you've managed to get some rest today @BlueBunny23 Flowers

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BlueBunny23 · 03/10/2022 09:50

@PritiPatelsMaker things are better yes lol going 3 hours then sometimes 4-5 hours in the early hours until morning when my DS gets up for school but she sleeps soundly all day when he’s been running around noisy then when he’s asleep and it’s quiet she’s unsettled then I put lights on and tv on and she sleeps again.

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