Breastfeeding at 1am...lonely! Want to talk

[IvyChen]

Hi fellow moms, are you currently breastfeeding? Do you feel alone?? I feel so alone when I breastfeed especially at night 💔 do you feel the same? What did you do to make you feel better?

Me too! I will be around tonight :). How old is your baby?

My boy is 3 months old! He is perfect but the feeling of having to wake up constantly at night and have nobody awake around me in a dark room just made me feel so lonely. I am so sleepy and can't fall back to sleep.

Been doing this for 15 months! I mostly shopped online in the first few weeks so I didn’t fall sleep 🫣 guilty haha
it was a hard time my little one was tongue tied so she needed breast constantly, she still wakes up for a feed but we cosleep so it’s a lot easier to get sleep
I don’t really have any mum friends to chat too so it’s been hard really feel you there, and it’s hard scrolling social media while half awake and not feeling the best
your doing an amazing thing ❤️

ill be here if I’m proded by mini to wake ❤️

I hear you!!! I only recently stopped breastfeeding (toddler aged 2 years and 8 months arghhh). But their sleep gets better progressively... mine started sleeping through from around 11 months. It's a long hard slog but hang in there!! When I was in your shoes I couldn't believe it gets better, but it does xxx

You are so kind! You know sometimes we just want to know there are moms out there made it through and there to support each other. Thank you so much! You are so strong too! And I totally get you that sometimes we may just need to fall back to sleep 🥲 I wish there is an app or something can know my schedule during the day and prompt me to do the best for myself too you know 🥲🥲🥲

Omg! How did you do it??? Salute to you!!! Did you finally enjoy breastfeeding? How did you get thru the hurdles? The loneliness of feeding at night and the struggle of not enough milk supply sometimes 🥲🥲🥲🥹

Hi moms, anyone still awake? Such a long night and day.....and here we go to breastfeed again

Just feeding little one nurses to sleep, it feels like a superpower 😂❤️

when my little one was newborn I had friends playing all night to help me feel less lonley x

omg you are so lucky to have those great friends!!! I am here also breastfeeding again 😭 indeed. Super power mom we are 😭

Omg you meant playing the FRIENDS? My brain clearly not working anymore ...

Haha bless you 😂 that would of been good!

brain is mum mode now lol 😂 especially after a feed! In desperate need of chocolate lol 😂

I have a 12 week old boy and I am also up multiple times breastfeeding through the night! My partner works 6 days a week so I let him sleep and use candy crush as my company 🤣

Same here, my partner is usually deep asleep... I have a 3 months old boy. Tried binge watching netflix and scrolling through instagram and facebook. But the loneliness and exhaustion is painful... would be good to have a group or community that I can talk to

So true. I became so easily hungry ever since the 3rd trimester!! But it's sad many times we forgot to eat our own food?! Did you feel the same?

I had a box set I was excited to watch as a “treat” when awake- didn’t seem to disturb the baby. I also had snacks and drinks up next to the bed- again, treats… with each baby I found myself able to savour that time just me and them… which also made me feel it was more bearable and i now look fondly back on those nights with teeny tiny babies…

But I do recall the bone tiredness and the loneliness of some nights and breastfeeding IS bloody hard as you know you don’t get a break and can’t just ask someone else to take over.

But seeing that little one YOU grew and gave life to then thrive and grow on milk YOU made and fed them. Well it’s the closest thing to a superpower I think we can ever have!!

My DCs are huge now (12 and 9) but I can well remember those early days. Both of mind wanted to cluster-feed from 1 til 4am. At first I tried doing it sitting up in bed in the dark but I was so worried I’d fall asleep and actually I found it was psychologically easier to deal with if I accepted I was going to be awake at that time. I used to bring the baby downstairs, make a hot chocolate and get a pack of biscuits, then get settled on the sofa with a box-set. I got through all of ER with my first baby, as I remember! They do eventually learn the difference between night and day but for now you just have to do whatever you need to to survive it. I promise you one day you’ll look back wistfully at that time with your little baby. I do now when I look at my huge 12 year old!

This is so lovely to hear from a mom who made it! Thank you thank you! I am in a new place and don't have many friends. Nights like this when I am the only one awake in the house, I just feel so lonely and want to talk to people, just to chat....and know that I am not alone 🥹

2.34am and we're up (second time) as my little boy is poorly

I used to do quite a bit of online shopping while feeding my second! Probably not a great habit. This time goes by quite quickly so just try and stay nice and comfy in bed and make the most of the snuggles. You aren't alone. She will be sleeping more during the night over the next few months. I am still feeding my 15 month old but she doesn't wake in the night anymore.

Aweee our little ones are around the same age!! You are such a good mom. If it ever gets too lonely, come back and we can chat! More fun than candy crush maybe from time to time... haha hang in there!

Awweee!! It will get better, ♥️ How's tonight?

So well said. We are mom and it's incredible to see our babies grow for sure. I appreciate you leaving this message to me. You know, late night, it's so good to hear such words from fellow moms especially the ones who have experienced it. I keep telling me self, one night at a time....everything will get better ♥️

Anyone awake? BF again 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ and it's so cold now in UK!