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Feeling So Low

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Sleepbabysleeppls · 03/09/2022 13:06

My LO is nearly 1yo. Pretty sure I had PND and PNA for many months when he was born largely related to sleep - somehow managed to get through. Around 6/7mo I found things got a lot better. He started to sleep more at night and napped longer than 30 minutes.

However for the past couple of months I have been really struggling again and feel very low and desperate most of the time. He’s started waking more at night and wakes for the day around 5am. I feel like sleep is a constant issue that I am trying to solve but can’t. He’s also a handful in the day, so energetic verging on manic and often has tantrums (which seems early?!). I’m just really struggling with motherhood. Not even sure it is PND just not cut out to be a mum.

Find everything so hard and feel like there is no end in sight. I feel terrible because I’m sure LO is just a normal baby but I find it all so challenging. I’m quick to lose my temper (when he’s pushing and hitting me when I’m trying to change his nappy and when he won’t sleep). Most of the time I just feel so so down. I have a lot of support. I’m lucky. I’m just unhappy being a mum.

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fireandsaga · 12/09/2022 15:29

heya!
first things first, a big hug to you and reassurance your are not alone,
my little one is 15 months and its a wrestling match each nappy change, she's starting to express more big feelings and wants to be independent which can result in crying and screaming. Shes not a great sleeper, i still breastfeed and she wakes up a lot. I dont have a lot of emotional support nearby and im finding it hard to make mummy friends because all the antenatal clubs were online due to covid.

1 years old, a lot is going on. Lots of brain activity from learning new skills which result in sleep regressions. Also an awkward period of not knowing if they need one or two naps. So much is happening and i remind myself that her way of expressing her needs is in crying and shouting form because she cant speak her needs. Take deep breaths and take things slow (which is easier said than done i know). I try to distract her with trying to let her help me with tasks like hold the wipes while i change nappy or help do the dishwasher give her a cup to put in and out. With hitting i try give her toys to hold while i breastfeed. I follow big little feelings on instagram and there are some good pointers with handling tantrums.

You are doing such an amazing job mumma, motherhood is a thankless job which we make look easy.
I wish i could sit with you and make us a coffee and a cinnamon bun
Here if you need a chat
xx

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