Hello. I am looking for advice to help my friend. She is currently very stressed and recently expressed to me she felt like she wasn't herself, had lost her identity, and was "just a mum". I need to explain a few things about her situation and mine. She is young, under 25. She comes from background where she's had to learn a lot of stuff fast, the hard way, to grow up quickly. She has two pre-school age kids. Her partner does provide financially, but in all other ways he is a giant man-baby. She is effectively a single mum. I am childless (not by choice). So yes, I can see that she is stressed, and what those stresses are. But I obviously don't know what it feels like from experiencing it myself (and I am never going to). We did both live in the same area, but I now live elsewhere in the country. We are both non drivers, so don't get to physically see each other much. I really want some advice on anything I can do to help and support her, particularly in regards to making her feel like name again and not 'just a mum'. Dear mums of mumsnet, please shower me with your wisdom? Thanks in advance. Xxx