New Mum- is this PND

[AnonName92]

(I have also posted under general mental health but hoping would get more traffic on this one) I had a baby 7 weeks ago, everything at that point was so great and I love my DD more than anything.

This last 10 days has just been horrendous. My partner is a recovering alcoholic and unfortunatly had a relapse, this lead into him trying to take his own life. I have moved out of our home and gone back to my mums with DD. I understand this is the best thing for my DD but me and partner have now split and I'm struggling so much. I love him so much and the hospital have put him a lot of help and support in place that he's working really hard for.
I want to go back to our family home so much but I'm now being told by my mum if I go back I will lose the rest of my family. All I'm being told is to get on with it and get over it basically.
I feel so down and I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm not sure if this is PND or just life giving me a shit time right now.

Hi @AnonName92, Sorry to hear this is happening right now- it would be incredibly difficult to process and deal with at any time, let alone 7 weeks after giving birth, so I would say not necessarily PND but the stress could contribute to it developing.

I hope you get the support you need at this time, as does your partner.

This is super difficult.
I dont think its pnd its a normal response to an awful situation.

You are with your family who can support you in practical ways if not emotionally. Stay there.
Try to take each day at a time.
Ultimately your partner needs to work on his sobriety and attempted suicide is incredibly serious it spsak to serious MH problems.

You and your child should 100% not be around that (because honestly they could harm you or the baby) so in that sense your family are right.

But that doesn't mean the door is closed. If he can make a full recovery in the long term things may look very different however thats on your partner, not you, to make happen.

Your priority must be your child righr now.
10 days is way too soon to reconcile IMO. Your partner needs to stabaluse as a ninimum so i would be wanting to see 3/6 months of progress before i considered exposing myself or my child.
Again... try not to look ahead and take one day at a time.

I would also ask for this to be moved to relationships you will get more responses there.