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PND 8 months after birth?

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Babyontheway21 · 09/02/2022 18:21

Is it possible that long after birth? I just feel so unhappy and want to cry but it’s nothing at sllto do with my baby at all I love him to bits. Could it be pnd or just depression or something else.

Anyone felt like this so long after birth ?

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Babyontheway21 · 09/02/2022 21:04

Anyone?Confused

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LaMadrilena · 09/02/2022 21:44

I think something similar is happening to me, I was just wondering on my drive home whether it's possible. My DD is also 8m, and I'm starting to feel like I'm going to explode with all the pent-up sadness and exhaustion and all the things I'm doing wrong. Hopefully this gives the thread a boost and someone will come along with something constructive...

SlB09 · 09/02/2022 21:46

Yes absolutely possible. Other things to think about ...could you be getting your first period? Hormonal shifts etc?
Als as po has said 9months ish can be a peak time for exhaustion plus and. Reach out to you HV or GP and just chat it out then see where your heads at. Just getting it out there might help xx

PaddleBoardingMomma · 09/02/2022 21:54

Well they say that it can happen any time within the first year, but personally I've known it happen even after that.

Let's be real, kids are really really really hard work. It's exhausting, emotional, and often times a thankless job, feeling like you do is so common.

Especially with the first, it's like being hit by a train. How can something so perfect and wonderful make you feel like you want to scream into the abyss and bury yourself under the duvet in silence for a week?

I can only speak from personal experience but it's worth looking at (if you can) what exactly is getting you down. Is it the lack of sleep? Feeling isolated? Do you have enough help and support? Do you miss things you can't do any more? If you can link it back to something specific after some reflection, then it's a great place to start in working out how you can get help in those areas. For example I knew my depressive episode after my first was because I was utterly wiped out. It took some effort and we pulled some strings but I managed to get a few nights away with just dh (baby with my mum) and I slept, and I ate when I wanted to and had a shower when I wanted and read a book in silence and it was glorious! But it wasn't a magic fix, I knew I needed a longer term solution and thankfully dh was supportive and it marked the start of a more even share of the work load, we worked space into the diary for me to meet friends for coffee or get a lie in and it helped hugely.

However if it's more of a general low, can't really pin point it then your gp can be a great help. I had this with my second and started taking antidepressants and it changed everything. I feel much more able to cope, the lows aren't as low and the highs feel so much more frequent and enjoyable.

I suppose what I'm saying is there is hope, there are things that can help. It all starts with a bit of reflection and asking the right people for a little help.

Really hope you find something that works for you and start feeling brighter soon xx

Babyontheway21 · 09/02/2022 22:33

@LaMadrilena I’m sorry you are feeling like this too, it’s a horrible feeling but I’m sure there is light at the end of the tunnel for both of us.
@SlB09 no my periods returned pretty quickly maybe 6 weeks after baby. Suppose it could still be hormonal though does get worse around that time. I will speak to my HV I never thought of that.
@PaddleBoardingMomma thank you so much for sharing your personal experience. My baby sleeps all night which makes me think I can’t be tired although I suppose I am on the go all day. I don’t blame him at all I love being a mum but something just niggles at me that I am not happy, I feel unhappy with my relationship but there’s nothing to be unhappy with he’s a great dad and support I can’t fault that but I just feel blllllaahh it’s so hard to explain. I know I love my baby and my partner and nothing had happened to make me feel like this I just do… ugh I’ll speak to my hv but I know if I do I’ll cry and I don’t know what I’m crying for. I sound crazy I know I do.

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Allthesweets · 10/12/2022 20:34

@Babyontheway21 Hi, I know this is an old post but I wanted to jump and say I am 4 month PP and I could have written that last bit about being just blah. I just can’t put my finger on it either. I had a pretty traumatic birth which triggered a lot of old stuff for me, could have something to do with it. Trying to snap myself out of it. How did everything work out for you?

petersgirl · 11/12/2022 06:15

Allthesweets · 10/12/2022 20:34

@Babyontheway21 Hi, I know this is an old post but I wanted to jump and say I am 4 month PP and I could have written that last bit about being just blah. I just can’t put my finger on it either. I had a pretty traumatic birth which triggered a lot of old stuff for me, could have something to do with it. Trying to snap myself out of it. How did everything work out for you?

Just to note on the traumatic birth, I had a traumatic experience also and recently went for a birth reflection which has helped me
enormously. Regarding the 'blah' You can self refer for talking therapies on the NHS website might be a good place to start x

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