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Postnatal health

As with all health-related issues, please seek advice from a RL health professional if you're worried about anything.

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6 months

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MaternityMama · 07/01/2022 20:43

Just a brain dump really: I had my baby 6 months ago.. it was a very traumatic birth.. had DC 4 weeks early, so a little premie.. great weight though. I lost a litre of blood ended up with spinal block & forceps. Dc heart was dropping as I wasn't pushing properly. It was unbareable pain.. all in my back.. i wasnt able to sit still. There was times i was told i wasnt having contractions or in active labour as they couldnt feel my stomach contracting - at anytime! The back pain was something I'd never felt before 😢There was a whole lot more that I won't bore you with.. really all Im wanting is to see if anyone else experienced a traumatic birth & still wasn't over it 6 months later?? I can't even watch anyone give birth on tv as it sets me off & gives me like a panic attack feeling. I feel so guilty & feeling like it was all my fault 🥺 xx

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BunnyRuddington · 08/01/2022 17:51

So sorry that you've been through this. I think it would be worth talking to the Birth Trauma Association. I think that they have Counsellors who they recommend abs can talk to you about getting a debrief, if you think that you'd find that useful

dreamingdream · 13/01/2022 02:13

@MaternityMama

yes same here, still not over it, births on newspapers and magazines from celebrities sets me off, panic attacks, yes same here. I am speaking to perinatal health team.

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MaternityMama · 14/01/2022 23:07

@BunnyRuddington Im not sure if it would help. I know I done alot of screaming which meant I possibly wasnt totally listening, so I blame myself for some of the trauma. My baby was 3 and a half weeks early aswell so that just added to the stress/worry. I'll get over it in time.. Its just still so raw even though its been 6months🙊 which makes me not want to speak to anyone really.. since its been this long now.. my husband & I did speak to some of the midwives in the early days that came to our home but we didnt go to any counselling etc as we were just in that little baby bubble at the time. Maybe the next 6 months it won't be just as upsetting. Xx

@dreamingdream it's a horrible feeling isn't it? Feel sick to my stomach seeing anything to do with birth/labour & it just triggers it off. I really hope it helps you to talk to someone 🙏 xx

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BunnyRuddington · 22/01/2022 09:19

Im not sure if it would help. I know I done alot of screaming which meant I possibly wasnt totally listening, so I blame myself for some of the trauma. My baby was 3 and a half weeks early aswell so that just added to the stress/worry. I'll get over it in time.. Its just still so raw even though its been 6months🙊 which makes me not want to speak to anyone really.. since its been this long now.. my husband & I did speak to some of the midwives in the early days that came to our home but we didnt go to any counselling etc as we were just in that little baby bubble at the time. Maybe the next 6 months it won't be just as upsetting

Please don't blame yourself @MaternityMama, it's normal to scream and make a noise when you're in Labour, I know I'd did.

Having Counselling by a Counsellir who specialises in Birth Trauma might help you to get over how you're feeling? I hope you find something tat helps anyway x

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