Is this anxiety?

[TiredEyes1991]

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Had my first baby 12 weeks ago and I absolutely adore him but I don’t know if I’m suffering with some form of anxiety? I don’t feel I am but reading things online makes me think I am

Basically I have left him for two hours in total since he’s been born. One with my sister while I went for a hair cut and once with DP, other then that I’m with him 24/7 but I’m happy with that. When I had my hair cut I missed him like mad but was relaxed as I knew my sister had him. When DP had him for an hour I couldn’t fully relax even though he’s great with him. He lets me sleep in on his days off and that’s fine because me and baby are in the same house. I’m okay with my family holding him but when my in laws do it gives me the silent rage and I just want him back. Granted there have been times when they’ve not been respectful, but I hate them holding him. The thought of ever leaving him with anyone but my sister fills me with dread… I’m already worrying about returning to work. I tend to his every cry and need and hate the thought of him crying and me not being there to soothe him.

MIL took him round the block last week and was gone 10 minutes. I wanted to cry. I’ve been told my attachment isn’t healthy but I don’t think that. I finally have the baby I wanted for years and I just want to make sure he’s okay all the time. What do you all think?

I had pretty much the same need to be with my baby. I think it's partly how you're programmed and probably the hormones you produce when you're BFing.

The rage you mention would make me query PND though. Tike to speak to your GP I think.

He's only 12 weeks old these feelings are totally normal! He's your baby and you're programmed to care and protect him all day long. I didn't leave either of my babies with anyone until they were at least 4 months old and even then it was for 2 hours max as I was breastfeeding. It does feel very weird when you leave them as you're used to them being there 24/7. So no I don't think what you're describing is anxiety or unhealthy. It is normal mum feelings. When your little one is bigger and you are thinking of going back to work it will feel weird leaving them somewhere like nursery or wherever but it will feel easier than it does now I promise. Do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry about what anyone else says.