I didn't miss my baby

[Hsmum21]

I've slowly started to leave my 5 MO with family members for a few hours here and there so I can catch up with myself and have a bit of peace and quiet. I feel terrible because when I'm away from him I don't really miss him and I've started to question myself. Does that mean I don't love him? Am I a terrible mother?

Not at all! It makes you a normal human being. I used to leave my DS with family for a few hours at a much younger age. I knew he was well cared for and it was important for me to have time for myself. Spending every hour of every day with a baby is not that fun. Breaks make me a much better parent.

Of course not. Do you think your partner spends the day at work pining for the baby? It's just a few hours.

Having a baby is thankless, relentless work. Nothing wrong with a few hours off - granny gets to have fun with the baby, baby gets another source of entertainment for a while and you get a break. Everyone's a winner.

Nah, I don't miss my child if away for a very short time as long as I know they are being looked after.

I'm not the best parent in the world, but I love my DS fiercely and am not a bad parent, I provide for him and part of being a good parent is taking care of yourself too!

No it doesn't at all!
I've read threads on here with loads of people say they can't/couldn't be away from their young babies and it made me question myself.
But I love my kids and when I'm not with them I know they are with others who love them and are taking care of them properly.
I need a break sometimes to just be me and it makes me a better mum for it.

Nope, I'm the same! Babies are bloody hard work, so it's fine to need some time to yourself.

Mine are much older than yours but no I don’t miss them when I’m not with them, I rarely get a break if ever so it’s very much appreciated when I do!

There's nothing to miss at that age feed , nappy , sleep repeat.
I started to miss Ds when he could sit up, clap his hands, babble and have his own personality.

Nothing to feel bad about, you need the rest

I was back at work 3 days a week when DD was that age, and honestly, I loved it.

She's 17 now and all is well with our relationship.

Enjoy the time out and remember you can't pour from an empty cup.

That's normal! You need to take time to be you, not just mummy. You can let yourself have fun and peace and quiet without needing to feel guilt

I'm leaving my 2 year old and 5 month old today to go to lidl in peace today, actually excited 😂

Can't say I'll miss them too much, might even have a pointless wonder round superdrug too to stretch it out 🤣