Is this normal?!

[mum1503]

My DD2 is 6 weeks old and I just feel so rubbish. I went from full time working to nothing and I feel like it's difficult to adjust to.
Everyone I know works apart from one friend- I can't exactly spend all my time with that one person- she has a large social life. I love my baby but I feel so resentful of my husband who has everything as normal. I also had a 3rd degree tear at childbirth and it depresses me to think I'm never going to be normal again.
Is this a normal way to feel after 6 weeks? If so, how did you get back on track?

I felt the same around that time, it's a massive adjustment for anyone and it's totally normal to feel resentful towards your husband, I felt as though my whole world had changed and his hadn't altered at all apart from the odd night feed and nappy change.
I slowly got into my own routine with baby, signed up to a couple of groups and made sure we got out every day, even if just for a walk. Lockdown hit when my lo was 6 months old so we had no choice but to stay home or go for walks alone.
Are there any mother and baby groups where you are? You'll probably find there's a lot of mums in the same situation as you who are desperate for mum friends.

Sorry hit send early.
What makes you think your never going to be normal again after your tear? I also had a third degree tear, everything healed great and I was back to normal within a couple of months.

I would say it’s massively normal at this time. It’s such early days still. I really resented my husband as his world hadn’t changed too much but mine had just imploded! It does settle and get easier with time. Currently on mat leave with DC2 and those same feelings of resentment are back but looking forward to starting back to work soon. I know things will get better. Go easy on yourself, you’ll get there xx

I felt the same after my first - had a really good job and we were the first people in our friends group to have a baby - was so depressing being at home with a baby all day - it’s so monotonous!

Defo get out of the house every day - even just for a walk and get a nice coffee somewhere! Also, find some baby groups - some I hated, some I enjoyed and made friends at but they’re a good aim to get out of the house!

I’ve got 4 now ranging from 9 - 1 so have fully embraced motherhood, back working part time as I enjoy the challenges and distraction that this brings.

It is hard and no one can prepare you for how life changing it all is!

I had a third degree year with my first and everything is normal and in good working order down there!!!