A question about PND...

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I'm on sertraline after the birth of my baby this year but I'm still not sure it's helping or if it actually can help? Everyday I question what PND really is and wonder what people who don't think they have it feel. I find life with a baby incredibly difficult even though I really love her. But I'm constantly on edge and feel like running away because it's all just too overwhelming. Hearing my baby cry feels like an electric shock.
What does it feel like with a baby if you aren't supposedly depressed? I'm just wondering if I really am ill or I'm just not cut out for this. It's like I don't believe it can get better.

Sounds just like how I felt with PND, it does get better ,I promise x

It's bloody hard even without PND tbh.

Thanks, how does it get better? Do you feel better or does the baby get easier? I'm so scared I won't ever feel better even if the baby objectively gets more manageable..

For me it was medication and getting more sleep as ds got older and tbh just adjusting to life as a mum.

Try not to compare yourself to others who seem to be breezing through it all, easier said than done,I know . It's only now I'm 50 and talking to my group of friends and we feel able to admit just how hard it all was when they were babies and so relentless. No one warns you how hard it is and actually if they do you don't really take it on board.

It's really important you try and get some time for yourself, even if it's just a morning to yourself while someone takes the baby,do you have a partner or family member who could help?

You WILL feel better, IME it was slow and not over night but things start to feel easier all round.

You most definitely will feel better. The turning point for me was when I could communicate with my daughter and we’d enjoy days out together. There were times prior to that when I told my husband I wanted her to be adopted because I found parenting too much. I genuinely cannot believe I thought those things now, as it is so so far from how I feel. I came to the conclusion that I’m not a baby person, but now my two are 6 and 7, I really love it. There are still difficult moments (mine are both very loud!), but on the whole it is the absolute best thing. I just didn’t think this in that first year.

How old is your baby OP?

I found that the medication alone wasn't enough for me and I needed talking therapy alongside it, can you ask your health visitor or GP if there is any other support available? In the early stages my Gp did tell me it would go away with time but for me I needed extra support.
I also found a local group run by the charity home start which was called Mothers In Mind and specifically aimed at Mums with PND it really helped to show me I could go ort and about with my son, albeit to a safe supportive environment.
It's so Tough.

Just remembered my lovely health visitor forced me to go to Sure Start play group which was absolutely brilliant ,I don't know if they still have them now.

My baby is 13 weeks

Awwww really early days then still, try not to put too much pressure on yourself x