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5 days post c-section struggling

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Babydust13 · 31/05/2021 06:10

I'm really finding things tough I have the most amazing helpful partner but lack of sleep and baby blues are causing me some baby anxiety I'm worrying about our gorgeous boy all the time I'm sure I check on his breathing more than most people would. I have good and bad days but I'm sure I'm slowly losing my mind.

The midwife is coming today so I plan on talking to her hopefully she'll have some words of wisdom

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MindyStClaire · 31/05/2021 06:28

Go easy on yourself OP, the first week is so hard. Talk to the midwife, but also just accept that between the how change in your life and the hormones, of course you feel all over the place. I'm glad your partner is supportive, things will settle soon Flowers

MindyStClaire · 31/05/2021 19:24

How are things this evening @Babydust13?

AyyMacarena · 31/05/2021 19:32

This is such a difficult time and this is a normal reaction. You will make it through.

I think that DP and I constantly had a hand attached to DC to check breathing and in the night we would crush each other reaching over to the Moses basket just in case.

Has the midwife helped?

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Babydust13 · 31/05/2021 21:32

@MindyStClaire @AyyMacarena I'm feeling much better this evening although we have had a hectic day. I spoke to the midwife about my anxiety about babies breathing and she was lovely said she would check it for me and it turns out she agreed it was a bit fast so we ended up in a&e but we're home now lots of checks later everything is fine.

The midwife was happy with all of the other progress which put my mind at rest just increased his milk in take a bit.

I did say to the midwife I'd keep an eye on my anxiety and if it gets worse will find someone to talk to about it.

I definitely think the majority of the problem is just baby blues because it doesn't stick around all the time I just go through phases hopefully it will pass soon.

I'm going to try and start going out for some walks once my c-section pain has died down a bit fresh air will probably help

Thanks so much for taking the time to ask

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MindyStClaire · 31/05/2021 21:38

What a day! I'm glad you're feeling a bit better. Honestly, the early days are so so hard. It will get easier. Just be kind to yourself and focus on your recovery.

megletthesecond · 31/05/2021 21:41

Those early days are hard. Then the baby blues hit you like a bus. Bloody hormones playing tricks on us Flowers!
Be kind to yourself while you heal. It's not a race so don't feel like you should be doing much, you've had a major op and a baby.

Bobbiepin · 31/05/2021 21:44

To be honest, being aware that your anxiety is getting a bit much is a really healthy sign. Not being able to recognise it is a problem but you are.

Sleep as much as you can (a dirty house can wait, order take out etc), get dressed even if its changing from one pair of pjs to another and meet your needs and much as baby's.

NatARG · 03/06/2021 07:53

I had a c section 10 weeks ago and felt much like you initially. Walks really helped and even just going in the garden to begin with. I also found lots of cuddles with my daughter helped. Around 7 weeks I felt more confident with my role as a mum and DD started to smile so it was nice to have more interaction. I also phoned the Health Visitor with any concerns and even 111 when I was concerned about a rash. Don't forget how amazing you are doing- you're keeping your child safe, alive and loved. Blush

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Babydust13 · 04/06/2021 11:00

Just to update everyone my little man has been in hospital since Tuesday his breathing didn't settle was still to fast they have done a heart scan and found a hole in his heart.

I'm not sure what the next steps are we are still waiting for a doctor to give us some information but I'm stressed to the max but trying to stay strong for our little fighter

It is treatable they will probably just want to wait until he is bigger before they do anything. There is also a chance that as he grows the hole will close itself

This is not the way I wanted my journey in to parenthood to start but this just makes my little man need some extra special cuddles 💙

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AyyMacarena · 04/06/2021 16:44

Wow! That sounds terrifying but shows you know what's best. Will be thinking of you both. I hope the hospital help you soon Thanks

Bobbiepin · 04/06/2021 18:24

Sometimes it's anxiety, sometimes it's instinct. Well done for sticking to your guns, I hope little man makes a full recovery with minimal intervention

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Babydust13 · 05/06/2021 15:21

@Bobbiepin @AyyMacarena thank you

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PumpingPauper · 05/06/2021 15:53

@Babydust13 bless you! Shows how important our gut feelings are, well done! My niece had a hole in her heart and it healed naturally when she was little xxx

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Babydust13 · 05/06/2021 16:36

@PumpingPauper I was hoping that would be the case but the doctor seems to think it would be unlikely- I don't know if that means it's bigger than normal we don't know much until we see the specialist

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PumpingPauper · 05/06/2021 17:24

@Babydust13 it's probably just to keep you level headed in the the nicest possible way. Don't give up hope though, it may well resolve naturally even if it's a rare chance xxx

AyyMacarena · 05/06/2021 18:02

When will you see the specialist? Xx

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Babydust13 · 06/06/2021 08:11

@AyyMacarena I'm not sure we have to wait for a letter to arrive in the post. Hopefully sooner rather than later

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