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Could I have PND when baby is nearly 1?

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Anon7777 · 07/03/2021 19:43

My DS2 is going to turn 1 in a few weeks and for the last month I have been struggling with very low mood and feel like it’s getting to the point where it’s really getting me down and affecting the way I look after my two kids and relate to other people especially my husband. DS2 was born right at the start of the first lockdown and for all of his life so far there’s been some extent of restrictions. When he was a newborn I was very stressed about not being able to let my family meet him and when he was around 6 weeks old I felt terrifyingly down for a couple of weeks but it didn’t last longer than that and as restrictions eased too around the same time I felt better. I love him so much but I sometimes feel that I haven’t been able to give him as much attention / build as close a relationship with him as I did with my first, and I’ve worried about that on and off. In our second lockdown after Christmas I felt fine at first but since early February I just struggle to do anything with the kids, I feel like I just want to stick the tv on all the time, I am often teary, I shout more, get so impatient with them, and hardest of all to shake off I just feel dull and down a lot of the time and like I can’t muster any enthusiasm for anything. I’m mostly a SAHM although I work very part time, I’ve just gone back after maternity leave and I’ve struggled with that too although it has been nice being out doing something different. I know this has been a hard year for everyone and I know things are slowly improving now COVID wise but I don’t know if I need to see someone to address how I’ve been feeling the last few weeks as I’ve been fairly constantly low, and feel it’s to the detriment of both kids especially DS2 who I now have time one on one with at last with school back but I feel I can’t make the most of it, I’m just trapped in feeling down, looking at my phone too much, overeating and feeling bad even while I do that this is the last of his babyhood, he’s going to turn one and I’m not making the most of it. I’ve always struggled a little bit with anxiety but this feels different much more down, maybe more likely to be some level of depression and I really want to do all I can if I need to to make things better for my family.

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BunnyRuddington · 08/03/2021 19:52

It sounds as though it very much could be but at least you've recognised that something might be amiss and you're willing to address it.

I'd give PANDAS a call tonight if you can, they are open until 10pm Thanks

Flamingolingo · 08/03/2021 19:55

Yes, absolutely could be. My GP told me that the window for PND is far longer than anyone realises, up to 5 years apparently.

Hope you manage to get some help and support Flowers

Anon7777 · 09/03/2021 15:13

Thank you both so very much for taking the time to reply and for your kind words, I really appreciate it. I have phoned my GP and made an appt today, it’s just telephone consultations they’re offering just now but I have one tomorrow morning. I was so nervous about phoning but I’m now just so relieved I’ve done it and I’m sure I’ll be able to say how I’m feeling better when he phones, I so hope we can find a way to improve things a bit. Thanks again. X

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Flamingolingo · 09/03/2021 19:12

Please remember that it’s not your fault and nothing you have done has caused this. Sometimes it just happens, but you don’t have to put up with feeling that way. Things can be better.

Anon7777 · 10/03/2021 11:44

Thank you so much. My GP phoned back this morning and was really nice, was only a very quick chat but he has referred me to a CPN who is coming to our local surgery in 2 weeks. I feel a bit nervous but I’m really glad to have it in place. Thanks so much for your support and helping me pluck up the courage! X

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AllDoneIn · 10/03/2021 11:52

Yes absolutely and I'm glad you have realised this and are getting support. If you're one of life's 'copers' you will keep pushing on for a lot longer than others might before realising that actually you don't feel like yourself any more. This is very under-discussed.

Flamingolingo · 10/03/2021 13:03

I agree with @AllDoneIn. I had quite significant PND after my first child, but being a bit of a ‘coper’ I didn’t realise until I had my second child and suddenly realised that the answers to all of the questions on the PND screen were ‘not this time’

BunnyRuddington · 11/03/2021 20:49

I'm so glad that you've recognised it too and that you've phone your GP Thanks

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