Planned c section+emergency life saving postpartum hysterectomy recovery time ? Rambling post+a kinda vent

[mrsjoker35]

I'm 23, 4 weeks ago my second beautiful baby girl came into the world via planned c section(I had a previous emergency and she was breech), but sadly I suffered a huge blood loss due to my placenta getting stuck to my uterus, and I had to wave goodbye to my fertility to save my life... I had a transfusion,and I was cut open twice as they of course tried to stop the bleeding first then taken back into surgery. This was 4 weeks ago today, I'm trying not to be too hard on myself but I'm still very uncomfortable on my feet and achy, and I feel so useless and down on myself, I can't do much apart from take care of the baby and "light" housework and easy dinners... I'm sorta scared to take a walk, and I just want to take my 5 year old to the park with her sister in the pram, it'd also do my mental health a world of good to get out.

My partner is great and he's been doing basically everything around the house, keeping my oldest entertained, and just started the school run today, along with the food shops etc. And here I am being a useless mess I just want to feel like myself again. The hospital upon discharging me were telling me it WILL of course take time for me to be okay again (I was there for 7 days too I want to add,I'm still a bit traumatised from it tbh, hospital stays are so horrible and I just missed being home with my oldest child and just wanted to have my baby home where we belonged too and share her with my little family and have that comfort at least, then all the dreaded observations and blood tests, fluids, antibiotic drips, I barely got any rest the whole time) but they didn't say exactly how long or anything, took me around 6 weeks with the c section alone, reading up on hysterectomies I've seen people say 4-6/6-8/8-12 and I'm just like eeesh... I've had both so how long are we talking here ? I just feel so off and rubbish, I'm also anemic and on iron tho. I also have a small, bleedy part of my c section wound, but I got it checked over last Thursday and the nurse said she thinks it looks fine and healing well, (but still took a swab to check for infection which I haven't heard back from yet), but I can't stop overthinking about it because I'm terrified of something going wrong and being put back into hospital again anyone else had a bleedy/weepy part of their section 4 weeks post ? Was it okay ?

I don't even know what I'm rambling on about anymore lol I just wanted to share a part of my birth story even though it's kinda negative but I couldn't have even written any of it a few weeks ago I think it'll help me mentally get over it if I talk about it, but yeah just maybe see if I can get any advise on recovery since I didn't get told much by the doctors, and also just vent a bit because I feel so rubbish.

Thanks for reading if you got this far

Oh you poor thing

I did have a bit of my c-section wound that went like that at around 4 weeks, I just had to make sure I kept it clean and dry as far as I recall, and it healed up fine.

I know it's frustrating but don't try to rush your recovery - I only had a c-section, not a hysterectomy, but a couple of times in the early days I totally overdid it and ended up having to leave baby and toddler with dh and go back to bed for a bit (massively unlike me).

I hope you feel better soon.

Sorry, I just re-read that, I hope i didn't come across as insensitive, I just meant that even with a smaller more routine op, it took me a while to feel better and it was frustrating. You will get there gradually. Congrarulations on your new baby

Oh gosh, sorry you've been through a difficult time. Great to hear you're getting support at home. I had an emergency section with DS, I also stayed for 7 days and he stayed for 2 months. As he was there I was travelling every day to see him and even started driving soon after. Big mistake. In all honestly it's taken me
6 months to feel myself again! I hope you have a much quicker recovery than this but you've been through a lot. Please don't push yourself, you've had major surgery and it's a lot to take in!

Part of my wound was a little weepy too 4 weeks on. Turned out one of the dissolvable stitches hadn't properly gone. Once removed it healed up nicely.

Congratulations on your baby by the way

Hi. Similar tale here - first time placenta ruptured, huge blood loss, baby 6 weeks early in scbu 10 days, me on ward. Baby unwell for 12 weeks but all ok in end. Second time somehow uterus stuck to bladder so when baby was born I went back into surgery. No hysterectomy but advised against further pregnancies. Even remembering the births makes me miserable. You are young and hopefully will be up and around by 6 weeks post partum.

I had an emergency hysterectomy after my third child's delivery by c section. It took me four months to be able to manage the school run and look after the kids on my own although I could walk around more after 6 weeks. There is a lot of healing to take place inside and you can cause damage to yourself and slow the healing process if you try to do too much too soon.

There is a FB group for women who have had a hysterectomy due to placenta accreta (adherent placenta) where you can get lots of info and support here.