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Postnatal health

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Really stressed

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Daisymais · 05/02/2021 21:55

My partner and i had our daughter 11 months ago and since then we've had a good routine and are here to help each other. My partner is self employed so works around me and the baby due to my poor ability to cope by myself. But he has now dropped a massive downer on me after I've been coping a lot better that he is working 9-5 next week and I'll be alone all day with the baby. I feel overwhelmed after just a couple of hours with her alone. I don't know what to do. I know if I try and ask him to not do this job or do it for less hours so he can help me it will turn into a row but the truth is I know I cannot manage especially carrying her up and down stairs to get her food as it's a 3 story house. I'm starting to feel a relapse with my postnatal depression. I don't have anyone else around me to help especially with this lockdown.

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Daisymais · 05/02/2021 21:58

He has never been alone with her for more than a couple of hours and he's the one who copes a lot better

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Beetlebum1981 · 05/02/2021 22:13

What do you find so hard to cope with? I'm not judging btw, just asking to see if there are ways to help.

BeHappyAndSmile · 05/02/2021 22:13

Is the carrying her up and down stairs a physical issue or anxiety? What makes you think you can't cope? (I don't mean these questions in a bad way at all by the way, I have a 3 month old and for the first month I couldn't carry him upstairs because I was terrified id fall and hurt him so just wondering if it's something like that). Can you leave her in a safe space (cot etc) and bring the food to her rather than carrying her? Can your partner come home for lunch?

Oly4 · 05/02/2021 22:23

You poor thing. I’m sorry you’re going NG through this. I don’t think these feelings are normal, though I’m sure you’re a great mum. Have you spoken to your GP? It sounds like your postnatal depression is making you feel like you can’t cope?
It’s nobody’s fault, not yours or your partner’s

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Daisymais · 06/02/2021 08:28

She is at the stage where if you leave her she cries. He said originally he would but that's all changed. It's a physical and mental thing. I have back issues and she's 11 months now so is very heavy.And I am always terrified my back will give way and I will fall with her.I don't want to be alone with her for that long as I feel very overwhelmed with her quickly and as she is at a clingy stage she won't let you leave her without crying.

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