Really struggling

[sophie269]

I'm really really struggling with my newborn. He doesn't stop crying and doesn't sleep. His 8 days old and of course I love him but I miss my old life so much and am starting having thoughts I shouldn't of had a baby at all. It's not that I don't love my son I do. But I just keep crying thinking my son and partner deserve better, someone who is better at being a mum. My son just cries every time I hold him or do anything for him. His not like they atall with my partner. I see my friends who have just had babies too and they are so great and babies are so content. I don't know what to do really

This is all totally normal! A newborn is a massive upheaval, they all cry and you feel completely shit from exhaustion and hormones. You will get through this and things will settle, you are doing a great job.

If you continue to struggle and think things might be heading for post natal depression then get in touch with your gp. Look after yourself.

Could it be wind or reflux? A dairy allergy? Some people swear by cranio osteothapy for a baby with unexplained crying. There is also a support charity called ‘crysis’ I think thatt could help. Hope you get it sorted x

My baby was like this! It's so so tough. Everyone else's baby seemed to sleep all the time but mine was just always crying! I would either offer him boob (even if I'd just fed him, I didn't stick to timings at all) or walk around the house rocking him over my shoulder (he had reflux so all he wanted to do was either feed or stay upright so his tummy didn't hurt), quite often I'd play music I liked as a bit of a soundtrack to our rocking around the house and eventually he'd fall asleep. Then I'd sit down with him snoozing upright on me, if I tried to put him down in the cot he'd wake up and scream again!! Ended up at the GP and with a prescription for gaviscon initially which helped but made him constipated then at 8 weeks he ended up on omeprazole which really helped with the pain and meant he could finally sleep on his back in a cot. Good luck and it does get better, he's now totally grown out of it and is a lovely little 8 month old x