I Can’t Slow Down

[MummyMcGowan]

My baby is 8 days old (super early, I know) but I’m worrying that I’m putting too much pressure on being “super mum” and having a handle of everything already.

Is it normal to worry that you know you’ll not be the same, organised, in control person that you used to be?

I know motherhood will change me, I’m just worried I won’t be able to accept it and calm down. I’m feeling very anxious at the lack of routine/getting things done.
I have amazing support from my husband and mum but am scared to become too dependent on them.

Has anyone else felt like this?

Congrats on your little bundle ♥️
I am generally a very organised and clean/tidy person (often describes as anal 😂) so this was a huge fear of mine too especially now that I'm a single parent.
My baby is 12 weeks old now, and I've been very lucky that he is very settled so I have plenty time to keep my house in order and on top of washings etc.
Usually I struggle to settle down to sleep if I know my house isn't sitting tidy and I worry about not being able to do my usual routine in the morning if I'll be busy tidying from the night before. However there have only been 2/3 nights that I've went to bed without hoovering and cleaning the kitchen. I've been so exhausted with the little one that I hardly noticed.
He goes to my MIL's for 2 hours on a Monday and she always urges me to sleep but I honestly feel so much calmer knowing that I can spend that time deep flexing the toilets and stuff lol
I know I sounds so strange but honestly, you'll find a way xx

Everyone I know feels overwhelmed after the birth of their first baby. The truth is in a year's time you won't be the same person, you will gradually change and evolve. When a woman gives birth two new people are born - the baby and the mother (cheesey but true.)

You are still early enough in the journey to feel like the old you, over time things will shift and start to fall into place. Do not worry about relying too much on other people - if you have supportive family take al the offers of help you can get. It doesn't make you a less good mother, you have to keep functioning to look after your baby and the only way anyone can do that is with support. Don't be afraid to accept help.

The first year is incredibly intense, allow yourself partner and mother to help. It benefits them, you and your baby too. We all want to be supermum and I'm sure in your baby's eyes that's exactly what you are, take the pressure off yourself and congratulations.

KAB1291

I feel like I can really relate to your reply. I know I’ll have to accept that things have to slow down and change.
I just hope I’m able to!