4 week baby and relationship with partner

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So my baby is four weeks old. I have two much older sons from my previous marriage, this little girl is the first (and last!) for fiancé.

I am an Attachment Parent and fiancé is totally in support of this. I breastfeed as baby needs it, she usually naps on me, we safely bed share. Basically, baby is with me for the majority of the day. Baby is very content, we get good sleep etc.

However, I feel distant from a contact and intimacy pov from my fiancé. Before baby we had a really great relationship sexually. This of course is now non-existent!

What worries me is that I'm not sure how we're going to get it back?

I miss my fiancé.

You will get it back! Your baby is 4 weeks old, and it's an intense and challenging age. I had a similar parenting style to you, and also felt estranged from my husband at times but it got better as the months went on. Now a year in we're closer than ever and trying for a second.

Sorry sent to soon, just wanted to say go easy on yourself. Don't feel under pressure to be back to your old intimate relationship. There's no rush. When our girl started going down in the evenings - 3 months or so - that was a major turning point for us as we could have quality time again. Not so easy when you have older kids I know but if you put the work in you'll be fine. Until then enjoy this special time with your newborn x

@RMarieClaire Aw thank you so much for your reply. We bedshare with our baby and she is attached to my boob more often than not so time with just OH just doesn't happen! He's also suffering from major back issues so is dosed up on all sorts of meds. It's even worse when my two older boys are at home with us.
I just long for ten minutes of "us" time I guess.