Sex after 2 weeks?

[staceymarieox]

Hello! I'm currently just under 2 weeks pp, and just wondered how long others have waited to have sex again?

Really thought having a baby would scar me from sex for a good while but I have found that my sex drive has returned 900% stronger than it ever has been! I had a vaginal delivery and have a couple of second degree tears! Currently my bleeding has stopped although I'm aware it could start back up, and I'm not in any pain, just a slight ache when I tense down there! I have tried touching myself to get used to the sensation again when in the bath especially as I was too scared to feel anywhere near my vagina after the baby because I didn't know what to expect 🤦‍♀️

Also wondered if anyone had any advice for the first time after baby? We did get some lube just to make things a bit easier especially as I'm gonna be anxious about any pain. And also did anyone bleed after it? Just to know what to expect!

Due to the covid pandemic midwife and health visitor visits have been reduced and although I know I can call for advice i feel a bit uncomfortable phoning to see if I can have sex this soon, as i feel the baby should be my only concern!

Thanks! :)

Could you not have non-penetrative sex to give yourself a chance to heal properly.

Congratulations on your baby! Im not a medical professional so take this with a pinch of salt but i would say the following...

1. Make sure your stitches if you have any are COMPLETELY healed. And then give the scar tissue time to settle.
2. Be really careful about infection, make sure your partner is fresh out of the shower
3. Contraception - use a condom.

Once I stopped bleeding so about 2 weeks,don’t forget contraception

I wouldn’t if you have tears. I’d wait until the 6 week check or check yourself how they’re healing with a mirror.

I was similar in that my sex drive went through the roof after DC4 and got back in the saddle (so to speak) on Day 5. I had no tears though. The fact it was DC4 probably had something to do with being OK so wouldn’t recommend it if it’s DC1. DH almost had to fight me off and was .

Just to add I had only spotting after about Day 3!

@Tigertrees we have been having non penetrative since around day 4/5 I think it's just getting to the point now where it works for us but we know it can be better. Dont get me wrong we aren't rushing and if the doctor said it had to be 4 or 6 weeks that would be fine, but even on the NHS website it just says as soon as you're ready. Obviously stitches need to heal and i was told 2-4 weeks for that!

@CoronaIsShit I'm glad I'm not the only one with the increased sex drive! It surprised me when I found any small bit of affection was getting me going even the day after I'd had the baby!😂
My bleeding has been tapering off for days, then came back a touch and now has stopped to the point my pad is always clear, but may get a little when wiping! May just suggest building up to the full event over the next week or two with foreplay and such! It's been a bonus for me as he suggested we get a bullet so I was getting some added stimulation while he was getting all the fun so it's not been all bad 😂😂 I have to go to GP to sort my contraception out (although we do have condoms if we were to try before I get there) but baby is nocturnal right now as are we so getting myself there is a pain 🤪😴😴