Advice for first few weeks please!

[Sunflowersandsnowdrops]

Hi,
I gave birth nearly four weeks ago now and I feel like I’ve not left the bed or the sofa since I got home. It’s made harder by the fact we’re only allowed one walk per day at the moment, so my outdoor time is limited. I don’t want to expose DS to anything so my partner is doing all the food shops etc but I’m feeling like I’m failing and a useless Mum.
How long did it take you all to start feeling like yourself again? Do you have any tips or tricks that helped you in the first few weeks/months?
Thank you

I think it is totally normal not to do anything in the first few weeks. I couldn’t really walk for 6 weeks so didn’t get up, and that was without a pandemic! Your baby is tiny and all he needs is love and cuddles and milk for now so go easy on yourself and don’t worry.

congratulations by the way

My baby is just over 4 weeks old and I'm struggling too. This lockdown is making it even harder not being able to get out apart from one walk a day. No friends or family to visit is also hard. I just want all this to be over so badly!

If your child is fed and clean and dry and dressed then you’re doing a great job!!!
Focus on recovering from birth and enjoying lots of baby snuggles.
Congratulations.

Thank you @OhClover @Wolfiefan😊 you’ve knocked my head back on straight!
@abbs1 it sucks, but we can do it! And we’ll get all our visitors when we feel up to going out so we can take full advantage of the babysitting offers!

I also have a 4 week old but shes my second.

Your baby has no idea whether you've been outside or visited friends. As long as he has a full tummy and cuddles from you he's happy and you're being a great mum to him. Get some box sets lined up to watch and enjoy an excuse to be lazy and cuddle all day

Thank you! Congratulations on your second baby!
I’m feeling much better this week, I’m making a conscious effort to not dwell on things that are outside my control and it seems to be working well

My baby is 8 weeks tomorrow and two things really helped me. 1. Getting outside every day for a walk (with or without baby) even if just for 5 minutes 2. Signing up for Busylizzy - it's primarily at home exercise stuff but they also have baby massage, baby yoga and baby music which gave me something to 'do' with the little man.

I was you last year

I would definitely take DS out in the pram if you can, even if it is just for 10 minutes a day. It will blow away the cobwebs and you will feel a bit fresher.

Another thing that helped me was eating healthily (within reason as you dont have much time on your hands with a newborn!). Snacking on biscuits and crisps made me feel lethargic and like crap, so if you can get some nice healthy snacks in and make sure you stay well hydrated.

As far as baby goes, I used to always feel the need to 'do' something with DD. It looks me months to realise babies don't want to do anything until they're at least a few months old, they just want to be cuddled/fed/changed.

Phone friends/family as much as you can and ask about their news. It's nice to have some non-baby-related chat!