Born into lockdown/ Post-Natal health

[lizzylou1]

Hello all! Hope your all well and safe in these difficult times !

I am just reaching out to any mums or new mums who are finding it extremely stressful and depressing at the moment .

I gave birth to my second child 2 weeks ago and I am feeling at my lowest. I have anxiety about a lot of things , one being the lockdown which we can't really do anything about. Secondly I'm feeling overwhelmed my guilt with having to give so much attention to new baby and just altogether feeling very low like everything is too much l. Also did
Anyone else feel scared that they will not love their second child as much as they did their first ? I know I sound like a really bad mother but I needed to reach out to someone . Thank you for reading ! 😘😘

I'm not postnatal but I've got two kids and absolutely understand the way you are feeling right now. You don't sound like a bad mother at all; you sound like someone who is full of love for their kids and doing a really tough job at an awful awful time. It's ok to admit that this is really really hard, because it is.

Hi bananasm.....
Thank you so much for your reply ! It's so comforting to hear that I'm not alone and thank you for your kind words 😘

How are you feeling today Lizzylou?

My kids are older but I really empathise with what you said at the end. Before having my second child I couldn’t imagine ever loving another child as much as I loved my eldest. In the end my younger one turned out to be my favourite (if I had to choose, they’re both lovely but the younger one is more of a personality type that I get on with).

Morning B

I'm feeling a lot better today thank you ! It has been a fairly chilled morning so far . Baby sleeping so managed to
Spend some time painting with 3 year old 😊 I'm trying to Imagine If we were not in lockdown would I Have felt the same way never the less I'm happy I didn't wake up
Feeling as low this morning . Thank you so night for checking in. Hope everything is ok with you and your family xxxxx

Morning Regi

Thanks for your message , that is reassuring to hear . Off course I adore my new baby it's just scary not having that feeling thst you had when it was your first. Like you said it all turns out fine in the end and obviously the adjustment to the eldest child and watching them come to terms with having to share mum and dad. Plus she's autistic so her understanding of change and compromise is not great at the best of times.

Hope you and your family are all well and a safe . Sending you a hug if you need one xxx

Hi. I had my first baby 12 days ago and definitely there with you. This is not how I imagined things when we found out we were expecting a child at all. My husband is a key worker and goes back to work on Monday and I was supposed to have the support of my family and friends during the days but obviously little one and I will just have to figure it out by ourselves. Extremely worried about my loved ones at risk and sad that none of them can meet my beautiful new daughter properly. And to top it all I had a nasty episiotomy and tearing so am still feeling like I've been severely beaten up day to day.
It's all just a bit challenging really.

Congratulations on your new arrival and hope things improve for us all soon xx

Hi sally

Ah congratulations, just a few days apart !😊 yes I know , the timing couldn't be more wrong , my hubby is also a key worker so he's been pitching in with the nights we're he can and he was supposed to be on leave . I still can't believe whst times we are living through ! Like you said it's horrible not having family round to see baby , and I feel like I'm missing out on my year off

All I can say hun is hold on in there , you will figure it out ,us mums always do !! And don't mention the tear I got one of them too
, not nice !!! Hope you have someone to call on for essentials or Whst ever you need while hubby at work
Xxxx

@lizzylou1 I know what you mean, the first time it’s like it’s the first day of your life. But honestly everyone does adjust eventually. Our children are thick as thieves and somehow you end up with more love in your family, probably because children are just so loving by nature. Of course it’s very good for the children to have a sibling as well. This early period is an adjustment and lockdown is only going to exacerbate your emotions at the moment but honestly all will be well.

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Gave birth a few days ago, so happy with my baby but so sad at the world. I often look at him and cry because i'm so anxious with everything that's going on. It all happened out of no where, rapidly adjusting to this lockdown/virus mess.. it's hard. I wish it wasn't happening, it just feels like i'm stuck in a nightmare. I want nothing more than to see my family, get fresh air without a worry, give my son the future I saw him having, now potentially the first 5/6 months of his life will be stuck indoors. No one even knows what'll happen and all this uncertainty is so not good for your brain, esp a postpartum brain! Not pnd I don't think, honestly so in love with my son, I just don't know how to cope with this new way of life with a tiny precious human to protect.
Nice to know i'm not alone but would much rather this didn't exist for anyone to worry about.