Baby blues?

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Hi everyone, I'm just after a bit of reassurance. Im a first time mum and our daughter is 9 days old and the last 3 or 4 days I have had short periods of time where I feel totally overwhelmed and keep crying. My OH is being brilliant and is being very supportive but I just feel like I'm constantly worrying over whether our daughter is feeding enough, holding on to her wind, having enough pooey nappies etc 🙈 I always knew that we would have to be open to adjustments every day with a little one but I feel like I'm stressing if I'm doing everything right for her 🙈 please tell me these feelings will pass soon!

Of course those feelings will pass. I’m sure you are doing a fantastic job! It’s always a little overwhelming to start with but you get into a rhythm and eventually learn to relax. I promise

Completely normal OP!! You are suddenly responsible for another life, someone that cannot tell you what they need or why they are crying. It can be incredibly overwhelming. Are you breast feeding or formula feeding? I know it's hard but trust your instincts and believe in yourself. You are the best person to look after your baby, you will be doing an amazing job!!!

I was a nightmare when my baby was born! Didn’t trust my own judgement and panicked about everything.

He’s now 3. You naturally get into a groove and routine quite quickly. Just make sure to be kind to yourself x

@whatwouldjohnmclanedo thank you, you just think you get the hang of something and then little bubs changes something ever so slightly and it's like woah ok that's not going to work anymore 🙈 I think I'm finding it especially difficult as I would normally have extra people around (my parents and in-laws etc) to help but because of this lockdown they're unable to physically be with us but it is what it is and I guess the main thing is we're keeping her safe 💕

And I bet you are doing it beautifully!

@Lifesabeach86 yes exactly that, we had planned to have a baby and always felt quite in control but once she was actually here it was such a shock to the system! I was so adamant I wanted to breastfeed but we couldn't get the latch sorted and we were both getting very stressed and poor bubs wasn't getting any milk and I found the support is very minimal at the moment due to the current situation of the country! so I started expressing my milk so she has been having a bit of expressed and a bit of formula and she seems to be doing ok with that at the moment 🤞🏼

If your OH is supportive then you’ve got it in the bag! Baby’s like to change the rules just as you thing you’ve got it sorted just to catch you out. Before you know it you will anticipate what she is likely to need before she does. (Then you do the ‘hell yeah’ dance) preferably without OH watching

I just reread my poor typing. Apologies

Absolutely normal, but if it feels too much, doesn't let up, or gets worse, speak to your midwife/HV.

@whatwouldjohnmclanedo yeah he has been absolutely brilliant and I almost feel a bit guilty with him having to deal with being a new parent too and then also having me being an emotional wreck at times 🙈 but he says it's ok and he always does his best to cheer me up 💕

@ChipsyChopsy we have the health visitor coming out on Monday for the 12 day check so I'm hoping that will help give me some reassurance too 😊

How are you doing OP?

@whatwouldjohnmclanedo thank you for checking in, I've been absolutely fine for the last week I would say which is great 😊 we've gradually started to get the hang of things and night times are getting better so we're sleeping a bit more - my only worry at the present time for her is that we are on day 4 of no 💩 - we have tried cooled boiled water, tummy massage and cycling her legs but nothing as of yet 🙈 going to try a warm bath for her today to see if that gets things moving 🤞🏼

So pleased that you are feeling more in a rhythm. Be prepared for 💩 nappy after nappy when her system starts to move. Does she seem uncomfortable or not too bothered by it?

@whatwouldjohnmclanedo the last time she went it had been 3 days and it ended up as an explosion up her back 😂🙈 she is farting a lot and she has a little cry every now and again when it seems like she's trying to go but nothing appears but I can guarantee as soon as it does it won't be solid like constipation it will be another explosion 🙈

I hope the warm bath sorted things out x

@whatwouldjohnmclanedo I'm not sure what actually worked in the end as we tried a few different things but we finally had the release this morning and it wasn't too horrendous! Never been so happy to see a pooey nappy haha 😂 she's been so much more content today since going too which is lovely x