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Partner is driving me mad

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Fidgitigdif123 · 22/02/2020 23:00

Just need to vent!
7 weeks pp and still recovering and in pain from an emergency C section. Had a pretty traumatic time of it which has contributed to me getting post natal depression. Have hardly slept the last 7 weeks as I'm the only one out of me and my partner who gets up during the night with the baby. She's bottle fed as she was unwell and didn't latch when she was first born, so its not like he can't do any of the night feeds etc.
The last week or so we've all caught a cold and been unwell in our house, but my partner has really been taking the mickey with it and acted like its the end of the world. There was even one point at 4am where he called 111 because he had a sore throat. He's done nothing at all with the baby, not held her or anything. Even though I've been ill myself and recovering from surgery aswell, I've still managed to take care of a sick baby. I'm so so tired.
I asked him to hold her for 10 minutes while I sorted a couple of things out, and he gave her back after a few minutes because he was 'tired from holding her'. I lost my temper with him just now when he told me how tired I looked, and have shut myself and the baby in our bedroom. He can't understand why I'm so upset. My hormones are all over the place plus my anti depressants haven't kicked in properly yet.
Sorry, just needed to vent and get it off my chest.

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JJPC · 22/02/2020 23:03

You’d be justified in being mad regardless of your antidepressants and hormones. He’s being a lazy sod.

suchfun0101 · 17/03/2020 04:23

He needs to step up and help you, c section recovery is HARD on its own let alone everything else you are dealing with.
Sending you love OP, sorry this isn't much help but I really hope he realises he needs to be supporting you and sorts himself out X

Toastiemaker · 25/03/2020 11:53

C-section recovery takes ages - took me 3 months! He needs to be more supportive, dealing with a newborn on no sleep is hard, plus feeling unwell on top of that is just exhausting. Could he take her 30 minutes a day so you can shower? 30 minutes out of 24 hours is doable, surely he can manage that??? Sending hugs- hang on in there!

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